"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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She broke up with me right now ????

Sato21m

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My gf founded out her parents are getting divorced yesterday she is been very sad, she is an only child Hispanic family so they are very attached.
We been going out for 11 months I cant ask for more my gf is an afc for me always calls me always do the things for us to work it out . But a lil while ago she told me dayron I love you with all my heart but we have to brake up.

The reason is because we were a lil mad in my house about stupid **** I know she said it with out thinking but I told her Ok I wont call you or nothing you know that’s your decision. Now I don’t know what to do should I just call her to make sure she just said it for the hell of it or she meant it.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Dayr0n said:
My gf founded out her parents are getting divorced yesterday she is been very sad, she is an only child Hispanic family so they are very attached.
We been going out for 11 months I cant ask for more my gf is an afc for me always calls me always do the things for us to work it out . But a lil while ago she told me dayron I love you with all my heart but we have to brake up.

The reason is because we were a lil mad in my house about stupid **** I know she said it with out thinking but I told her Ok I wont call you or nothing you know that’s your decision. Now I don’t know what to do should I just call her to make sure she just said it for the hell of it or she meant it.
respect her thoughts and feelings..
her family is breaking out so its REAl rough for her,

give her space. she will come back to you, its true of waht they say

you dont know what you have until you dont have it anymore.

give her space, and i mean alot. stay stay distance. become aloof but dont give out negative feelings such as. if she contacts you and asks how u doing. dont just say im doing fine.. tell her how ur doing then switch it up and ask how was her day..

the trick is to make less contact.. meaning. MAke urself busy.. lie if u have too.. block her on im once a while so she doesnt see u online.. then LET her make few contacts once or twice a week.. and when u do get into contact wit her. she should find the same confident guy she knew in the BEginning.. not at the end
 

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She just called me right now crying That she cant do it that she doesn’t want to live that she is sorry that Im the love of her life...

I told her that she is very depress and that If she had the balls to do that That I wont take her back
 

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Dayr0n said:
She just called me right now crying That she cant do it that she doesn’t want to live that she is sorry that Im the love of her life...

I told her that she is very depress and that If she had the balls to do that That I wont take her back
She's going through a rough time. Her emotions are skyrocketing in every direction. And you can't even support her? You can't take the lead and assure her that everything will work out? Instead of doing what a respectable man would do, you tell her that you're not going to take her back?

You're a prick, and you don't deserve her. Get lost, *******.

For those reading this, passion is a DJ's greatest asset. What follows passion is compassion. If you don't have either quality, you don't have anything.
 

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dude

shes ****ing deperessed because her family is failing apart..

be there for a friend for her, just for a time being until things settle down..

if shes was ur gf. would u let her suffer like this? i wouldnt fuk,

LIFE ISNT ALL ABOUT HOLLYWOOD ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS. THIS IS REALITY
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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dude she just called me right now she said that if im not in her life she doesnt feel like she deserve to live
 

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Demon said:
Just tell her that you're a prick, and let her get on with her life. She's better off without you.
Lol...
 

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Dayr0n said:
dude she just called me right now she said that if im not in her life she doesnt feel like she deserve to live
Hey dude, don't be a d!ck-head. This a girl that loves you and you're treating her like this in her time of tribulations? I wish I know where you live....
 

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I have to agree. This girl gave you her heart. This isn't a time to be ****y, funny, play games or put her on the backburner. You said you've been going out for 11 months. The least you could do is support her, even if you don't like her that way anymore. Once she's over this mess, then you can decide.

Don't be an ass hole, or yeah, we'll bootstomp your face on the curb.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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sexy_kuta said:
respect her thoughts and feelings..
her family is breaking out so its REAl rough for her,

give her space. she will come back to you, its true of waht they say

you dont know what you have until you dont have it anymore.

give her space, and i mean alot. stay stay distance. become aloof but dont give out negative feelings such as. if she contacts you and asks how u doing. dont just say im doing fine.. tell her how ur doing then switch it up and ask how was her day..

the trick is to make less contact.. meaning. MAke urself busy.. lie if u have too.. block her on im once a while so she doesnt see u online.. then LET her make few contacts once or twice a week.. and when u do get into contact wit her. she should find the same confident guy she knew in the BEginning.. not at the end
This seems like good advice to me if she really is serious about breaking up. If not, then give her space and she'll thank you for it later. Let her know that you're there for her but not in her face demanding an explanation for what's going on with you guys. She will appreciate the fact that you recognize what she's going through is more important and destabilizing right now that the exact state of your relationship.
 

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Im back... wow a lot of replies thanks. About the prick part I don’t appreciate that, anyways I told her that the only reason why I would forgive her is because I understand what is happening to her and that even thought she didn’t have to say that I will understand her and support her.
And we talked about many things and that she shouldn't feel guilty of what is going on in her house.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Sato21m

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Demon who are you a ***** protector I could give 10 ****s if you think my sincerity remains in question
 

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I'll tell you why she broke up with you

/7 you lost that lovin feeling /7
 

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sexy_kuta said:
you dont know what you have until you dont have it anymore.
"out of sight out of mind."



drop the stupid cliches.
 

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Demon said:
She's going through a rough time. Her emotions are skyrocketing in every direction. And you can't even support her? You can't take the lead and assure her that everything will work out? Instead of doing what a respectable man would do, you tell her that you're not going to take her back?

Um why should he take her back? He's not a bus that you can get on and get off. Next time she's sad she'll do the same thing. Or how about next time she's attracted to a guy she'll break up and fvck him "legally" and then want to get back together again knowing our hero will take her back.

Besides, it's creepy that she said she can't live without him. She doesn't sound stable at all. Who dumps their boyfriend when their parents split up? She doesn't sound very adult.
 

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jeeze louise, isnt she entitled to have a bad day with her family falling apart and fighting over everything in a divorce?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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