"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

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She broke up with me right now ????

Sato21m

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My gf founded out her parents are getting divorced yesterday she is been very sad, she is an only child Hispanic family so they are very attached.
We been going out for 11 months I cant ask for more my gf is an afc for me always calls me always do the things for us to work it out . But a lil while ago she told me dayron I love you with all my heart but we have to brake up.

The reason is because we were a lil mad in my house about stupid **** I know she said it with out thinking but I told her Ok I wont call you or nothing you know that’s your decision. Now I don’t know what to do should I just call her to make sure she just said it for the hell of it or she meant it.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

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Dayr0n said:
My gf founded out her parents are getting divorced yesterday she is been very sad, she is an only child Hispanic family so they are very attached.
We been going out for 11 months I cant ask for more my gf is an afc for me always calls me always do the things for us to work it out . But a lil while ago she told me dayron I love you with all my heart but we have to brake up.

The reason is because we were a lil mad in my house about stupid **** I know she said it with out thinking but I told her Ok I wont call you or nothing you know that’s your decision. Now I don’t know what to do should I just call her to make sure she just said it for the hell of it or she meant it.
respect her thoughts and feelings..
her family is breaking out so its REAl rough for her,

give her space. she will come back to you, its true of waht they say

you dont know what you have until you dont have it anymore.

give her space, and i mean alot. stay stay distance. become aloof but dont give out negative feelings such as. if she contacts you and asks how u doing. dont just say im doing fine.. tell her how ur doing then switch it up and ask how was her day..

the trick is to make less contact.. meaning. MAke urself busy.. lie if u have too.. block her on im once a while so she doesnt see u online.. then LET her make few contacts once or twice a week.. and when u do get into contact wit her. she should find the same confident guy she knew in the BEginning.. not at the end
 

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She just called me right now crying That she cant do it that she doesn’t want to live that she is sorry that Im the love of her life...

I told her that she is very depress and that If she had the balls to do that That I wont take her back
 

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Dayr0n said:
She just called me right now crying That she cant do it that she doesn’t want to live that she is sorry that Im the love of her life...

I told her that she is very depress and that If she had the balls to do that That I wont take her back
She's going through a rough time. Her emotions are skyrocketing in every direction. And you can't even support her? You can't take the lead and assure her that everything will work out? Instead of doing what a respectable man would do, you tell her that you're not going to take her back?

You're a prick, and you don't deserve her. Get lost, *******.

For those reading this, passion is a DJ's greatest asset. What follows passion is compassion. If you don't have either quality, you don't have anything.
 

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dude

shes ****ing deperessed because her family is failing apart..

be there for a friend for her, just for a time being until things settle down..

if shes was ur gf. would u let her suffer like this? i wouldnt fuk,

LIFE ISNT ALL ABOUT HOLLYWOOD ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS. THIS IS REALITY
 

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I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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dude she just called me right now she said that if im not in her life she doesnt feel like she deserve to live
 

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Demon said:
Just tell her that you're a prick, and let her get on with her life. She's better off without you.
Lol...
 

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Dayr0n said:
dude she just called me right now she said that if im not in her life she doesnt feel like she deserve to live
Hey dude, don't be a d!ck-head. This a girl that loves you and you're treating her like this in her time of tribulations? I wish I know where you live....
 

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I have to agree. This girl gave you her heart. This isn't a time to be ****y, funny, play games or put her on the backburner. You said you've been going out for 11 months. The least you could do is support her, even if you don't like her that way anymore. Once she's over this mess, then you can decide.

Don't be an ass hole, or yeah, we'll bootstomp your face on the curb.
 

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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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sexy_kuta said:
respect her thoughts and feelings..
her family is breaking out so its REAl rough for her,

give her space. she will come back to you, its true of waht they say

you dont know what you have until you dont have it anymore.

give her space, and i mean alot. stay stay distance. become aloof but dont give out negative feelings such as. if she contacts you and asks how u doing. dont just say im doing fine.. tell her how ur doing then switch it up and ask how was her day..

the trick is to make less contact.. meaning. MAke urself busy.. lie if u have too.. block her on im once a while so she doesnt see u online.. then LET her make few contacts once or twice a week.. and when u do get into contact wit her. she should find the same confident guy she knew in the BEginning.. not at the end
This seems like good advice to me if she really is serious about breaking up. If not, then give her space and she'll thank you for it later. Let her know that you're there for her but not in her face demanding an explanation for what's going on with you guys. She will appreciate the fact that you recognize what she's going through is more important and destabilizing right now that the exact state of your relationship.
 

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Im back... wow a lot of replies thanks. About the prick part I don’t appreciate that, anyways I told her that the only reason why I would forgive her is because I understand what is happening to her and that even thought she didn’t have to say that I will understand her and support her.
And we talked about many things and that she shouldn't feel guilty of what is going on in her house.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Demon who are you a ***** protector I could give 10 ****s if you think my sincerity remains in question
 

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I'll tell you why she broke up with you

/7 you lost that lovin feeling /7
 

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sexy_kuta said:
you dont know what you have until you dont have it anymore.
"out of sight out of mind."



drop the stupid cliches.
 

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Demon said:
She's going through a rough time. Her emotions are skyrocketing in every direction. And you can't even support her? You can't take the lead and assure her that everything will work out? Instead of doing what a respectable man would do, you tell her that you're not going to take her back?

Um why should he take her back? He's not a bus that you can get on and get off. Next time she's sad she'll do the same thing. Or how about next time she's attracted to a guy she'll break up and fvck him "legally" and then want to get back together again knowing our hero will take her back.

Besides, it's creepy that she said she can't live without him. She doesn't sound stable at all. Who dumps their boyfriend when their parents split up? She doesn't sound very adult.
 

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jeeze louise, isnt she entitled to have a bad day with her family falling apart and fighting over everything in a divorce?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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