"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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She blew me off!

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Hi everyone. I'm a 22yo reAFC trying to come out of my shell. I 've been lurking here for a while but i need feedback on something.

I've been talking to this girl (wasn't really looking for a gf, i just wanted to get to know her and to destroy my approach anxiety) for a couple of weeks. I met her in a cafe, got her # and we texted a few times. The problem is: when i asked to get to know her she didn't answer me at all! I mean nothing! So, four days later i "text her goodbye".

I was sort of wondering why this happened. I'm not a bad looking guy (without looking like Brad Pitt) and i didn't ask to see her police record or something.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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maybe because you asked to get to know her and didn't just go ahead and ask get-to-know-her questions? if you really said something like "can i get to know you?" then that's probably it. that just has kind of a transparently pathetic ring to it, sad to say. there's no confidence in that and it shows insecurity.
 
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Never ever ask a girl you barley know out on text messaging, its low, shows your lack of confidence and women know this.

You might as well not even bother talking during the date and just keep texting. I mean why is it ok to draw the line at texting when asking someone out and not during a dinner at a restaurant while on a date??

"hmmm dis chken tases goood, lets go and have sx now"
 
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Move on, bro! Plenty of other females waiting to get played!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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DJDamage said:
Never ever ask a girl you barley know out on text messaging, its low, shows your lack of confidence and women know this.

You might as well not even bother talking during the date and just keep texting. I mean why is it ok to draw the line at texting when asking someone out and not during a dinner at a restaurant while on a date??

"hmmm dis chken tases goood, lets go and have sx now"
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That's probably it. What was i thinking?

Damn, it seemed such a good idea at the time:whistle:
 
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