"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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She blew me off!

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Hi everyone. I'm a 22yo reAFC trying to come out of my shell. I 've been lurking here for a while but i need feedback on something.

I've been talking to this girl (wasn't really looking for a gf, i just wanted to get to know her and to destroy my approach anxiety) for a couple of weeks. I met her in a cafe, got her # and we texted a few times. The problem is: when i asked to get to know her she didn't answer me at all! I mean nothing! So, four days later i "text her goodbye".

I was sort of wondering why this happened. I'm not a bad looking guy (without looking like Brad Pitt) and i didn't ask to see her police record or something.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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maybe because you asked to get to know her and didn't just go ahead and ask get-to-know-her questions? if you really said something like "can i get to know you?" then that's probably it. that just has kind of a transparently pathetic ring to it, sad to say. there's no confidence in that and it shows insecurity.
 
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Never ever ask a girl you barley know out on text messaging, its low, shows your lack of confidence and women know this.

You might as well not even bother talking during the date and just keep texting. I mean why is it ok to draw the line at texting when asking someone out and not during a dinner at a restaurant while on a date??

"hmmm dis chken tases goood, lets go and have sx now"
 
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Move on, bro! Plenty of other females waiting to get played!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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DJDamage said:
Never ever ask a girl you barley know out on text messaging, its low, shows your lack of confidence and women know this.

You might as well not even bother talking during the date and just keep texting. I mean why is it ok to draw the line at texting when asking someone out and not during a dinner at a restaurant while on a date??

"hmmm dis chken tases goood, lets go and have sx now"
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That's probably it. What was i thinking?

Damn, it seemed such a good idea at the time:whistle:
 
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