she asked to bring a friend... and I said sure

[handle]

****.

The plan was to head downtown and just stroll around with this girl, I had something I wanted to get while I was down there, we could go to a cafe and all...

And anyway, now she's bringing along this friend who adores me and has had a crush on me for like 2 years (and who I would never ever ever consider dating). This is _not_ going to be the day I planned.

What are some options I have in this situation? Do I just treat this as a friendly get-together or what? There must be ways to play off the dynamic of having two of them there.

and, in the future how do I avoid this? or is it a blessing in disguise somehow?

 

[Obsidian]

there's always "Something suddenly came up."

 

[handle]

there's always "Something suddenly came up."

so it's really that bad, is it?

 

[Obsidian]

lol I don't really know, but it sounds kind of crummy. If it were just a second girl, that'd be one thing. But if it's an uattractive girl who is attracted to you, that doesn't sound promising.

You could flirt with the unattractive girl and conceivably make the target girl jealous and want you more.

but alternatively,

If you start to get anywhere with the target girl, the unattractive girl might c0ck-block you. This isn't *always* the case when you have two girls, but if the non-target likes you, then why the hell would she let you go after the target? Isolation is key, as they say.

 

[musclyjerk]

Did she even ask if it was ok to bring her friend?

The Muscly Jerk

 

[handle]

alright, I highly doubt any of that stuff is going to work. So I can either go and get nowhere (well, probably deep into the friend zone) or,

the alternative: she noticed on the phone I had a bit of a cold I said I was recovering from, I could call the day before and say there's no way I can make it (got worse).

but, if I do that, is it likely I have a real shot later of calling her up and going out 1 on 1?

 

[Derek Flint]

there's always "Something suddenly came up."

That's weak. If you don't want 3's a crowd, then tell her so.

"No, I asked you out. Not you and your friend"

It's your way or no way - got it?

Myself, I don't mind if a girl brings another girl, as that doubles the odds of getting laid.

 

[handle]

That's weak. If you don't want 3's a crowd, then tell her so.

"No, I asked you out. Not you and your friend"

It's your way or no way - got it?

But the fact is I already screwed up, now what's better?
flaking out like that is weak as hell, I'd prefer not doing it.
But, considering the situation, do I get any benefit at all from going through with this?

 

[Derek Flint]

But the fact is I already screwed up, now what's better?
flaking out like that is weak as hell, I'd prefer not doing it.
But, considering the situation, do I get any benefit at all from going through with this?

You also wrote: "and, in the future how do I avoid this?"

And I just told you how.

As for this situation, call her and tell her that you changed your mind.

It could be a s#!t test, or maybe not.

Bottom line is, if you don't want to go with her and her friend, don't go, but at least be honest with her about it.

If she doesn't like it, too bad. There are plenty of other girls out there, so don't worry too much about "blowing" it with this one.

You could also bring a wing to keep the CB occupied.

 

[handle]

How effective do you think a wingman would really be if the CBing chick is already really into me?

and as for calling and saying I changed my mind, I considered that, but figured it'd be a pretty wussy type move. if I am to do that, should it be quickly after the call (i.e. now)? Or later?

and... which of these options is preferred?

 

[pornstar88]

id get domed up by the unattractive girl lol

y not?

 

[PRMoon]

I hate group dating. It sucks because I'm trying to get to know the girl one on one and another female or male in the picture inhibits that process. If I had agreed to one hypothetically, I'd probobly end up bringing a drinking buddy and we'd get drunk, quickly. After I thorughly embarrased the girl with drunken antics, sports talk, sexist jokes, and the like, she'd either think i was a really fun guy to be around and want to come home with me or a complete jerk and walk out. At that point it's all about me anyway so i could deal with either.

 

[Derek Flint]

How effective do you think a wingman would really be if the CBing chick is already really into me?

and as for calling and saying I changed my mind, I considered that, but figured it'd be a pretty wussy type move. if I am to do that, should it be quickly after the call (i.e. now)? Or later?

and... which of these options is preferred?

Stop worrying about what she will think.

Do what you want to, not what you think she wants you to do.

If you don't want the other girl along, then tell her.

Just who is the Man here anyways?

 

[Chemistry]

That's weak. If you don't want 3's a crowd, then tell her so.

"No, I asked you out. Not you and your friend"

It's your way or no way - got it?

Myself, I don't mind if a girl brings another girl, as that doubles the odds of getting laid.

Listen to this dude and his posts....

 

[Burgundy]

This can be a SH%T test. She could be testing how much control she has in relationship early on.

 

[Aaron B]

next time say no

 

[Makkaveli101]

Go out with both of them. Be the confident guy that you are, show them BOTH a good time. When you arrange the next date, tell her how much you really enjoyed being with her and that you want to see her again.....on a one2one basis this time. Advise her that it isn't a good idea to bring her friend with her because she has feelings for you. I've found situations like this can work REALLY well for me. It's never a bad thing for one of your targets to know another woman wants you even if it is their friend. Use it and work with it, mould a good outcome with it for yourself.