"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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She asked me to be her boyfriend

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More on this random occurence. Ran into this third world chick from south america. I speak spanish fairly well. She commented that her dad passed away when she was 8 and grandfather when she was 14. So a central male figure has been missing from her life for a while. I also told her I had kids in the past so she followed up with if I could be her boyfriend. I politely declined but I see how this can get addicting spinning plates. All of a sudden if you had two girls like this she could be girl number two and all of sudden full of activity.

Finally my thoughts on matter is casual flirting is way more fun. Than outright answering to someone on daily basis. Just the thrill of the game and you never know who you could run into and run game on. Is why being a DJ is so much fun. As for settling down I'm looking now at some of my old flames on ancestry. Maybe I can get a decent rate of response from them. Been at least ten years since we chatted. I'm hoping they might appeal to charona chain virus. Maybe agree this might be serious. And to tell some of my old flames to be careful with their vacation plans. "hopefull" Is how I'm treating my ex flames right now...
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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So you ran into this woman you used to see and she asked to be your girlfriend? How awkward was that when you declined?
 

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So you ran into this woman you used to see and she asked to be your girlfriend? How awkward was that when you declined?
It was more awkward because I barely knew her apart from a few conversations. She also commented how she has trouble meeting people her age. Maybe why she pulled trigger so early... Tbh I don't pull trigger so early. Now if I was into her I would've gotten her home phone number. Having a girl that's just a friend is not my idea of spinning plates either. Call me old school!
 

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As for settling down I'm looking now at some of my old flames on ancestry.
Sounds like you're branching out. I'm guessing that finding new plates at a family reunion can be rather limiting.

I'm guessing (hoping) that you are implying that an ancestry member can look beyond their own heritage !?
As an ancestry member, I wasn't aware that we could search beyond our own roots.
 

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Sounds like you're branching out. I'm guessing that finding new plates at a family reunion can be rather limiting.

I'm guessing (hoping) that you are implying that an ancestry member can look beyond their own heritage !?
As an ancestry member, I wasn't aware that we could search beyond our own roots.
Well I know in minnesota most of the time mother gets parentage. I'm meaning women I had kids with in the past are most likely still single and good looking. So that I may talk to them for maybe a dinner. And to surprise meet my kids who are 12+ years old. I mean you can message them from last time I checked if you had kids with them at some point I believe. There's a new ancestry format so looking forward to using it to meet the kiddos.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Well I know in minnesota most of the time mother gets parentage. I'm meaning women I had kids with in the past are most likely still single and good looking. So that I may talk to them for maybe a dinner. And to surprise meet my kids who are 12+ years old. I mean you can message them from last time I checked if you had kids with them at some point I believe. There's a new ancestry format so looking forward to using it to meet the kiddos.
Sounds like you've been spreading seed all over and not looking after your own
... and using ancestry (your offspring) as a means to recycle these women.
Let's hope that you now have a vasectomy.
If there was a "dislike" option, I'd place it by your name.
 

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Sounds like you've been spreading seed all over and not looking after your own
... and using ancestry (your offspring) as a means to recycle these women.
Let's hope that you now have a vasectomy.
If there was a "dislike" option, I'd place it by your name.
It's not like I used them. Just there was an Iraq war. Was nervous wouldn't come back. Had those kids, supported them with what money made at the time. They're older now so maybe they don't need their dad. Maybe subconsciously they do need me in some way. To meet me. Not too happy about seeing the mom either. I'm not using them like a product Haha. That was my situation.
 

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The bible says be frutiful and multiply. It's good to have a lot of kids don't get a vasectomy, but like he said you need to take care of what you have before you go and get more.
Also every man and woman needs their father not just for money but as a friend, so please don't leave them alone if you are still alive, build a relationship with them.
 
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