"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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she ask for your number and when u call no reply

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i was in a club and this girl came and met me, and we spend the next 5 hour together in the club, in between we drank, smoke and talked a lot and danced, and in between she also told, i need your number so i gave her mine and she gave me hers. and when we left she asked me about going to the park on sunday, and i said i will call her on sunday, and i send her a text on sunday, saying i did not want to wake her up if she is sleeping, and suggested where to meet to go to the park, and there was no reply, then i called aher number and it was ringing but no one picked up. am just trying to figure out the reason for this, and whether to contact again...
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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TheMale

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shes taking the control since the begining and you playin the nice guy
a text to say you didnt want to wake her up ?!
excuse me but its kinda lame ... (dont take it personal)
shes probably think your not a real man cause after 5hours you didnt try anything)
she took your number she tel you to come to the park sunday ..


why you didnt kiss close her or something else then just number close after 5hours spent together and dancing ??

why are you sending a text instead of call her (its not a reason to say i didnt want to wake her up)

if you want to take control
call her in a week like nothing happened and if shes asking about sunday you say that you had some last minutes things to do
 

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TheMale summed it up exactly. She has your number. If she is really interested, she'll contact you.

And why didn't you make a move at the club? She was ready for yout to escalate the situation, but you didn't take action. What were you afraid of?! She woulda let you know if she didnt like you like that, and this thread would have never been started.

Next time, be a man, step up to the plate, and take a risk. Stop trying to be so safe.
 

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i was in a club and this girl came and met me, and we spend the next 5 hour together in the club, in between we drank, smoke and talked a lot and danced, and in between she also told, i need your number so i gave her mine and she gave me hers. and when we left she asked me about going to the park on sunday, and i said i will call her on sunday, and i send her a text on sunday, saying i did not want to wake her up if she is sleeping, and suggested where to meet to go to the park, and there was no reply, then i called aher number and it was ringing but no one picked up. am just trying to figure out the reason for this, and whether to contact again...
Chicks can be weird like that.

Sometimes they won't respond to you even though you hung out with them for hours.

Sometimes they'll be all over you if you only talked with them for five minutes waiting for the train.


Did you made out with her on that night, or at least tried to? If not, that might be the reason she lost interest.

Also, why would you text her if she told you to call her? You're being too careful. By doing it this way, you're basically telling her you're eagerly waiting for her to reply, which isn't a very attractive thought to her. I think this is the part where you lost it. I'm also curious what you put in the text message?

I wasn't there with you to see it going down so don't take this as the absolute truth, but this kind of sh*t happened to me a dozen times (my excessive experimenting over the years put me in pretty much every situation imaginable). Sometimes chicks will flake on you because you mess it up without even knowing it. There are all kinds of very subtle messages you send out without realizing it.

Sometimes chicks will flake on you for no reason at all. That's why you shouldn't care when something like this happens. It's no big deal, there are tons of girls out there. That's why you should approach non-stop and get numbers non-stop. Aside from getting better at this, it'll give you options to play with.v
 

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hey yeah, that was pretty lame, and am not taking it personal..

why send her a text instead of call, because it was too early, i ahd an appointment witha friend, so i texted her at noon, and we left club around 7 in the morning, i wont be happy if some one call me at that time too :)

and this place was more like a electronic music place, I went there cause i like the music, its not a typical pick up place. i was more surprised when she did not respond, after she suggests to meet up. she did not have to say so.

but people could be weird.. but still it was like a nice dream, i think it will happen again :)



snowdog said:
Chicks can be weird like that.

Sometimes they won't respond to you even though you hung out with them for hours.

Sometimes they'll be all over you if you only talked with them for five minutes waiting for the train.


Did you made out with her on that night, or at least tried to? If not, that might be the reason she lost interest.

Also, why would you text her if she told you to call her? You're being too careful. By doing it this way, you're basically telling her you're eagerly waiting for her to reply, which isn't a very attractive thought to her. I think this is the part where you lost it. I'm also curious what you put in the text message?

I wasn't there with you to see it going down so don't take this as the absolute truth, but this kind of sh*t happened to me a dozen times (my excessive experimenting over the years put me in pretty much every situation imaginable). Sometimes chicks will flake on you because you mess it up without even knowing it. There are all kinds of very subtle messages you send out without realizing it.

Sometimes chicks will flake on you for no reason at all. That's why you shouldn't care when something like this happens. It's no big deal, there are tons of girls out there. That's why you should approach non-stop and get numbers non-stop. Aside from getting better at this, it'll give you options to play with.v
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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