"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

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The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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she approaches you w/ interest, skip A2 & go straight to A3?

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what if a girl is bold enough to approach you and she's obviously interested and already showing interest? (this is rare and happens once in a blue moon) am i now supposed to go immediately to A3 and skip A1 and A2?
 

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She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

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whats A1, A2, or A3.

seems to happen to me all the time. Girl shows a lot of interest and I have the power.

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If she shows any interest at all then just skip to A-whatever and **** her right there.

but seriously, I'm not really sure what you're talking about.
 

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I'd tease her a bit and have fun but yeah - if she is willing to do the work for you, why not. She is approaching you based on looks - give her a reason to like you for more than that.... so run some A2 stuff on her but not as much as you normally would.
 

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for those of you "out of the know" he's talking about the different phases in Mystery's online apprenticeship program.

I'd say skip and go right to A3, myself, but dabble a bit in the first 2.. you can't just get right to the point with a complete stranger, even if she is really interested immediately.
 

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What are A1,A2 and A3 can any body tell me clearly
 

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A1, A2 and A3 are the phases in the first step of Mystery's M3-model.

The A-step is "Attract".

A1 - Open

A2 - Female-to-male-interest
(DHV, displaying active disinterest etc..)

A3 - Male-to-female-interest
(Reward her with IOI's for her efforts.)

After going through these phases, you can move on to the next step, which is "comfort". Here you will make a connection and build comfort with the girl, before moving into the last step which is "Seduce"
 

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If she approaches and is interested right off the bat, it seems a little counterintuitive to go straight to rewarding her for her IOIs - isn't that what an AFC who was approached would do? I'd do a little A2 then hit A3, like The Bad Ass Canadian said. But maybe I'm not understanding.

I mean, if she's rubbing your crotch or something, you should probably give her what she wants. Otherwise, wait a bit.
 

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IOI, what's the exact meaning of it.

I saw it before and it's probably something like interest indicators. But what do the letters IOI mean?
 

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Originally posted by Holland
IOI, what's the exact meaning of it.

I saw it before and it's probably something like interest indicators. But what do the letters IOI mean?
You've got iy right..

IOI = Indicator Of Interest
 

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I dunno man. I don't really have a prefference for paper size.
 

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Originally posted by john_1234
what if a girl is bold enough to approach you and she's obviously interested and already showing interest? (this is rare and happens once in a blue moon) am i now supposed to go immediately to A3 and skip A1 and A2?
Are you playing a game of "Battleship" with her? :D
 
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