"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
she approaches you w/ interest, skip A2 & go straight to A3?
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
comic_relief
Master Don Juan
seems to happen to me all the time. Girl shows a lot of interest and I have the power.
comic_relief
The Juan and only
Master Don Juan
but seriously, I'm not really sure what you're talking about.
syncmaster
Master Don Juan
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
il_duce
Master Don Juan
The Bad Ass Canadian
Master Don Juan
I'd say skip and go right to A3, myself, but dabble a bit in the first 2.. you can't just get right to the point with a complete stranger, even if she is really interested immediately.
The A-step is "Attract".
A1 - Open
A2 - Female-to-male-interest
(DHV, displaying active disinterest etc..)
A3 - Male-to-female-interest
(Reward her with IOI's for her efforts.)
After going through these phases, you can move on to the next step, which is "comfort". Here you will make a connection and build comfort with the girl, before moving into the last step which is "Seduce"
seanchai
Master Don Juan
I mean, if she's rubbing your crotch or something, you should probably give her what she wants. Otherwise, wait a bit.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Derek Flint
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Are you playing a game of "Battleship" with her?
