"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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She approaches me...

saturos

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...and half the time i don't really have anything to say.
I know its because i'm choking as i like the girl, and i'm trying to think of something funny or something to say, which ****blocks myself, but i can't stop.

She always comes up to me like "Hey saturos~!" and then starts to walk with me, and i feel like i'm thinking a mile a minute but the road i'm on is bleak and empty.

I'm almost certain this chick is into me, and i've been trying to let my nuts drop and escalate and stuffs, but i still choke big time whenever she comes up to me.

Any tips? Thanks. I think for the most part it should just be for me to relax, but seeing as i'm failing hard, any other advice would be appreciated.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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S.Y.L

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ask whats up, what shes doing on the weekend, hows your day been, what class do you have


**** like that, makes it easy
 

Scars

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Say ANYTHING. C+F is good and all, but a lot of people forget that C+F is mainly a tool used to build attraction. This girl is obviously attracted, so skip the bullsh!t and get in with it already. However, it's still always good to be C+F as much as possible don't make it a priority or let it keep you from talking, it will end up sounding rehearsed or out of place. Just go with the flow, in all honesty just keep doing what you're doing. She's attracted to you for some reason, so why try and stir up your regime in an attempt to be casanova?
 

saturos

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Yea this chick is the next door neighbor of one of my best friends (but a year lower, so i didn't know her before) and she is always texting me stuff like "u shuld come over 2 (friend)'s house rite now haha" and she always talks about how i should come over when i'm at my friend's.
And whenever the chick comes up in a convo, my friend's are like "yea that chick is on your nuts all the time man."

So its like now that i have her attracted, i'm cracking. Penis.
Live and learn, i suppose. I guess i should just do whatever the fvck and ask her to hang out and stuffs.
 

Analyzeit

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She's obviously interested, your mates know it, you know it and her mates probably know it.

When they are attracted you can practically get away with anything almost haha but it's pretty certain she's attracted so just use all the advice on the website, as you said hang and do that stuff.

Also follow S.Y.L and scars advice you don't have to be funny and escalating all the time, and when you ask just the simple questions and you should be able to make something funny up at what she says and if you don't it doesn't matter.

Save all the escalating for alone time or hanging out, just get your balls up and do it, remember that if she's attracted you can get away with heaps
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Captain Harlock

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If a chick comes up to you it should be easy. Do you ever meet her outside daytime, like in a club or something? The atmosphere should be more relaxed and easier to allow you to escalate.
 
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