"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Sharing a laugh (at my expense)

Black Widow Void

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There are at last three things on my phone that I find uninteresting; emoji's, animation and photo filters.

I don't see myself making this mistake twice, but thought that I'd bring this topic up - for others that keep this avenue open.

I use facebook (and yes, I understand and can agree with the arguments against it as well). It's my practice to not add people that I do not know in real life.
Last week I made the exception and I'm old enough to know better.

She posted more about her views and thoughts than activities. She didn't do obsessive posting and didn't appear to be an attention seeker. The few photos she had really looked good. Her main photo was taken at a recent establishment and so I knew her photos were new and not old. .... but there was no below shoulders photos.
Her face appeared petite and I figured what the heck, she lives in my city. Last week, I added my first unknown 'friend'and had coffee with her yesterday.

Laughing yet?
You should be.

The gal that appeared to look 10-15 years younger than me, turned out to look 10-15 years *older* than me. The odd part is that her photos were less than a year old (as mentioned above, she was pictured in a new establishment less than a year old).
And that "petite" face I mentioned above? If she had any more weight, she would have had a double chin!
Luckily, I knew no one in the coffe shop, it wasn't out of my way and she arrived early and paid for her coffee. These were the only 'positives.'

Perhaps this is common knowledge with the younger crowd here, but for those of us in the dark, I thought I'd share my new knowledge. After sharing this laugh with a pal of mine, he said that there are photo filters these days that can make anything look realistic.

If you knew how this gal looked in her photos and how she appeared in the flesh, you would be a believer that filters can do anything to anyone!

Like a lot of people here, I'm more a believer these days in the cold approach, than the internet approach. After yesterday's reminder, I don't see myself getting subjected to this type of situation in the future.

There are others here that rely on the internet approach. and for those people, I wanted to mention my recent blunder. Maybe photo filter alteration is common knowledge to most of you, but if I can prevent someone from making my mistake yesterday I thought I'd bring this up.
 
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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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There are filters that can even make a man look like a hot chick and it takes no effort to use it. Do not ever trust online profile pictures, everyone just uses their best looking ones.
 

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When the whole facebook madness started, 10+years ago, I used it to add a few hot chicks.
Picked up a girl I knew from college(10/10), ended up dating her for 6 months.
Went with a different totally random chick, had some fun for a week, then remained friends. Even now, 10 years later, we go out every year or so and have a bottle and wine and talk about stuff.
But of course some of the chicks I went out with looked "slightly different"/were batsh1t crazy.
Guess we all end up going on dates like what you described.
All in all, it's better to observe the females in the wild. At least from a physical point of view, what you see is what you get.
 

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Watch Face & LMS. He uses male models on OLD and writes the most obnoxious messages to see how they react and theyre all DTF, whatever he writes.
He pretty much tells them he's a rapist and they reply saying that he can come round and rape THEM if he wants.
It's all about looks. They need the best genes they can get. Nothing else matters.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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