"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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All right, this is the fear of all men down to the core of our soul (mine included still - even though I can game women all day long, this part still SUCKS).

So lets share with everyone what is your best/worst experience asking a woman's phone number, and what is your best tactic so far and getting over your fear of rejection??
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Maximus Rex

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The worst, when I tried to number close "THE HIGH SCHOOL SENIOR." The best any time, I successfully get the number. Before I number close, I'll usually bounce her to another location. I'll "conversate," with the chick some more, (building comfort and rapport,) and TELL (not ask,) her to give me her number. By bouncing a chick it makes the number close more solid, if she's willing to go with you from the spot where you initially met her to another location, you've obviously build have some rapport going with her, in addition to her trust and interest levels being raised.
 

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Best tactic to get over rejection: lol, they're women - 2/3s our size, and most likely not as intelligent, so who cares if they reject? Get her into a romantic state and get digits.

I walk up to her while maintaining eye contact and ask what her name is. When she gives me her name, I look down at my hand and up into her eyes and stick out my arm out palm up and shake her hand "cool name, nice to meet you". I then place her hand in my left hand and show her how the royal side of my family shakes peoples hands - It's bull****, but it works.

After building rapport with a touch of keno and small talk, I say "let me call you sometime woman, give me your number". It doesn't matter if I don't think she is worthy, because if I don't think she is I won't call, but getting the digits helps me feel good so whatever.

Bam, works 100%

Worst experiences I've had were when I was afc, and didn't know how to get a woman into a romantic state.
 

Turuwal

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Best one:

Me: I have to go now, but I want to see you again.
HB: Yep...
Me: Cool, what's your number?

(On debriefing I found out that four other guys asked that night, but I was the only one who got it because I "didn't make a big deal out of it".)


Worst one:

Me: Do you want to meet up some time...
HB: Ummmm... I don't think so


My best tactic:

Brutal honesty. You want her. She wants you. Be direct and take action.
 

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This my new samsung galaxy s5

*takes phone to see it*
"Yeah thats really sleek, I like it"

Yeah. Put your number into it.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Bayne05

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Maximus Rex said:
The worst, when I tried to number close "THE HIGH SCHOOL SENIOR." The best any time, I successfully get the number. Before I number close, I'll usually bounce her to another location. I'll "conversate," with the chick some more, (building comfort and rapport,) and TELL (not ask,) her to give me her number. By bouncing a chick it makes the number close more solid, if she's willing to go with you from the spot where you initially met her to another location, you've obviously build have some rapport going with her, in addition to her trust and interest levels being raised.
This is the truth.
I usually give her my phone while we still talking (especially when the conversation is getting more interesting) and tell her to save her number and just carry on talking like its no big deal instead of making the whole exchanging numbers thing into a discussion. If she gives me my phone back and doesn't give me her number I end the conversation and leave, its obvious she isn't interested, Next
 

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"I have seemed to have lost my number.. Can I have yours?"

Actually unintentionally I got a womans number yesterday. This receptionist in one of my buildings (I am a commercial building maintenance person and manager all in one for 3 10 storey commercial buildings) was complaining to me about a "creeper" that hangs in the garden area of one of the commercial buildings I manage. So I tell her"next time you see him when your out there just give me a call and I will approach this guy and ask him what's up because he doesn't belong there" so she asks "what's your number because I definately will, he creeps me out and several of my female co-workers" so I give it to her and she calls me right there so give me her number to make sure my number worked.

Getting numbers is easy.

Epi
 

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In my experience, even talking about "number closing" is ironic because in my experience it, like most things, works best when you don't treat is as some big deal. Especially not these days when people have hundreds of facebook friends, just getting someone's number is hardly even an IOI. Just feel it out and say whatever, she'll understand.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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VladPatton

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Take your phone out, mess with it for about 30 seconds, look up, let her finish her sentence, direct attention to your phone and ask for the number. Makes it seems like a may-as-well sort of a thing, since you conveniently have the phone out.

If you get shot down, you now have to go because of your "previous text" you just received.

Win-Win
 

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Ive gotten alot of numbers but i only remember a few. The majority of the time i would talk about seeing them again and then tell them ill call or text them later.

alot of them go like this:

Me: "I dont mean to bother you but I saw you earlier over there and i had to come over here to talk to you"

HB8.5: ::Laughs:..Oh yeah? (smile)...After some talkin, flirting i ask for the number and then try to set something up another day. if im not already making out and grabbin on her ass lol

The Worst one was just a "let me get your number" instead of her giving it to me. For the most part i just ask for it while im flirting.
 

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Number closing is the easy part, I find it's when to initiate and getting the date thats the hardest. So easy these days to simply flick out your phone as if to check the time or something mid conversation and then simply bring the phone to her and use a generic line like 'hey by the way, whats your number?'. I've found most girls will give out their numbers regardless as long as there is a flicker of interest romantically or friendship wise. It's almost building up that initial first impression that is the challenge.
 

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The thing that has worked for me the best is building rapport and just acting like I have a fun conversation. Then I tell them to put their number on the phone.

Did this with an HB 7 on the flight back home last night. We talked the whole way there and I never brought up meeting up or anything like that. We just talked about what she's going to school for (She's a junior in college) and how I am addicted to golf lol.

I think because we built the rapport it was easy to get her interest. Now I'm pretty sure she won't flake on me. She texted me later saying it was really nice to meet me and that we should hang out over the summer.
 

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"hey, what kind of phone you got?"

and then take it from there(talk about the phone for a bit, maybe compare it to yours, then trade numbers)
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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