"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Pozitron

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Ok so I've been kind of out of the box ( my box hehe...) lately and i liked it. I still do. I'm happier ( and not trying to justify it)... living in the moment and just doing things rather than thinking about them.

Anyway, here it is... I am really not so experienced with making and having a GF. In the past girls camed to me that I was maybe afreais and did nothing so I blew it every time. That's why I dont have experience.

I feel like I need to get 1 girl ( not the perfect one, just one I like) and then I'll get my "first's" and from there things will flow.

Having girls coming generally to me I am not used to "go and get what I want". Now I see that life doesn't wrk that way and that it's my job to do this. My job to initiate it and go for what I want.

I want to do it. I don't care if I screw up cause I know that will be so dam* helpful. I know that I'll feel that "fear" and I kind of like the feeling it gives me. I know I've never done this before and will feel uncomfortable. There is a first for everything. I accept all of that> And if I get cold fell I'll know I'm just scre**** myself so I'll do it anyway.

Now....... how. ( I can hear you saying: "Ow God.., again? Just look around, dude." ). Just say it once more. I'm trying here. I promise I'll never ask again after this one because I need to start and then I'll find my answers.

1) Tell me what you basically need to do ( don't care if I've heard them already. I need clarity). By this I mean what, not necessarily how since everyone has their style, and does what works for them ( if you mention it .. the better).

2) How did you do it the first time. How did you start? How was it/ ( the first....)

Thanks, Dj's
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Hey Pozitron,

the first thing you need to do is learn how to approach women. that is the first step and the start of anyone's journey through pick up, becoming a natural, getting a girlfriend, or whatever your goal is.

it's really simple, but pretty fvcking hard...I've only done cold approaches a few times in my life, and I wish I could do more. I get scared sh!tless way before I even see a girl and decide I want to approach her.

you need three things to do a cold approach: 1) you need to know what you're going to say, hence we have pick up lines, 2) you need to go outside into the world. it's much like being a newborn bird thrown from the sky, expected to learn to fly, or someone who has never been in water in their lives thrown into the ocean and left to swim to shore. fortunately, this will not kill you. in fact your chances of dying are zero, and your chances of becoming stronger as a man are 100%. 3) approach. it doesn't matter how young or old, fat or skinny, sexy or ugly, small boobed or big boobed the women you see are. you're not in this to get laid, you're doing this to gain confidence of your ability to survive in the world and do what you want to do. the purpose of approaching women is to gain social skills and lose your aura of fear and anxiety that most people carry along with them every day of their lives.

Hope this helps you. I hope this help me return to the field too. I'd like to avenge my failures and learn how to approach women!
 

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My first approach? Cant remember. Making a plan where you plan some of the first things you can say helps. Whatever, as long as you go do it.

My first GF? Dont have time for that. Nothing to learn anyway.

Social circle is huge too. gtg

I'll be back in a few days.
 
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