"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I don't know how to explain this really but it recently started happening to me when I make my approaches.

I did an approach today and in the middle when I was talking my voice kinda started to shake making it sound like I was nervous. Anyone got some tips or something so this doesnt happen.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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well, if your voice shakes...then you probably are indeed nervous. no matter how much you may deny it, you are nervous.

so just be cool.
 
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alright I guess maybe it will go away after doing more approaches and stuff.
 
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What's running through your mind when you are doing these approaches of yours?

If you are freaking out about rejection, the only way to get over it is do it a lot. When you start out keep it simple. Don't get into long winded stories or rambling on the same thing. Also ask questions, questions will open up areas for you two talk about and may in fact give you ideas for dates based on your interests. And if you are still worried about being shot down, turn it into a game, make it fun. The quicker you make this common place thing in your mind when it comes to approaches, the quicker you will stop being shaky.

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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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