"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Sh!t test?

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See her twice a week but not seeing her this week cos of her work.

Yesterday I was at a sports thing playing (play in a mixed team with girls) and she sent me a good luck message earlier on to which I replied Thanks baby..

I didn't contact her the rest of the day/night and I woke up to this text:

Hope you're coping without me this weekend, first in awhile, what are you going to do with yourself? Haha! (she is a fan of ****y funny) Big night? :) Thanks for the updates on your sports day btw :p (sarcastic ofc) oh and my day was crap thanks for asking :p (again sarcastic) tomorrow can only be better! :)

I'm getting the feeling she was a little jealous and maybe angry that I hardly text her.

How should I respond to this?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Oh God you're one of the guys that says "baby"... guys like you are fodder when I'm talking sh*t at the bars LMFAO.

Anyway, judgement aside, you're doing all the right things if she's sending you texts that long. At this point you DO NOT NEED ANY TEXT GAME, it's a matter of "don't say stupid sh*t" and getting her to your bed. Invite her out to a game (to either participate or just watch) and take it from there.
 

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I should have been clearer, shes 25yo and my gf of 6 months.

Not sure how I should respond to it is it a test? ( I didn't contact her all day/night which is why she is sarcasticly saying ''thanks for asking how my day was'' )
 

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Dude, honestly, if you don't care how her day was, don't ask. That's what her girlfriends are for.
 

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Lol that's the thing though, I don't care.

But what I'm asking is, she has sent me this text sarcasticly saying these things because I didn't let her know how my day was (I don't anyway). I think she is a little angry and is probably expecting a beta response like ''im sorry i didnt text you blah blah''
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Technics said:
Lol that's the thing though, I don't care.

But what I'm asking is, she has sent me this text sarcasticly saying these things because I didn't let her know how my day was (I don't anyway). I think she is a little angry and is probably expecting a beta response like ''im sorry i didnt text you blah blah''
She's making the classic mistake of thinking that the sh*t women care about is also something men care about.

If she's angry, she'll get over it.

If she says "I'm angry/sad/whatever" just reply with "youll get over it".

Again, that kind of sappy emotional bullsh*t is what her girlfriends/beta orbiters are for.
 

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Be sarcastic in return. I'm a big fan of throwing sh!t back at a woman when she throws one at me.

Say something along the lines of "You're welcome and thanks, I had a great day."

It will completely throw her of anything to say and she has two options. Keep being a sarcastic cvnt or be straight with you.

If she gets straight, become straight with her and tell her you had work to do. She might get all emotional and angry but don't comfort her or try to make her fell better. Leave her be.

The female mind has the amazing ability to rationalize things when left to itself. She'll quickly realize how petty she was acting then try to get your attention again with a cutesy text.
 

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El Payaso said:
Be sarcastic in return. I'm a big fan of throwing sh!t back at a woman when she throws one at me.

Say something along the lines of "You're welcome and thanks, I had a great day."

It will completely throw her of anything to say and she has two options. Keep being a sarcastic cvnt or be straight with you.

If she gets straight, become straight with her and tell her you had work to do. She might get all emotional and angry but don't comfort her or try to make her fell better. Leave her be.

The female mind has the amazing ability to rationalize things when left to itself. She'll quickly realize how petty she was acting then try to get your attention again with a cutesy text.
Haha this is exactly what just happened.
 

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Haha this is exactly what just happened.
Good. Now the power is back in your hands. You want to avoid replying too quickly to her texts. If you do, reply with very short, calm texts.

She will likely enter panic mode and make subtle or overt hints about wanting to see you. Give a vague answer like "We'll see."

If she calls you out on why you're acting different, call her and tell her you didn't like her behavior recently. She'll ask what behavior? Tell her you didn't like her need to be sarcastic and petty towards you and you don't think you can be with someone who can't respect your time.

Again, don't fall for her tricks. She will try to blame you for not contacting her, being a jerk, blah...blah...blah. Just sick to your frame and say "Look, I respect my time and I expect my partner to respect my time too" and drop the phone.

Her hamster will accept your logic and spin it to make sense to her.

Her acting needy towards you might be cute now but it won't be cute as time goes on so it's better you set things straight now. Once you do this, she will avoid, by all means necessary, constantly checking up on you.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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