"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Sh!t test?

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See her twice a week but not seeing her this week cos of her work.

Yesterday I was at a sports thing playing (play in a mixed team with girls) and she sent me a good luck message earlier on to which I replied Thanks baby..

I didn't contact her the rest of the day/night and I woke up to this text:

Hope you're coping without me this weekend, first in awhile, what are you going to do with yourself? Haha! (she is a fan of ****y funny) Big night? :) Thanks for the updates on your sports day btw :p (sarcastic ofc) oh and my day was crap thanks for asking :p (again sarcastic) tomorrow can only be better! :)

I'm getting the feeling she was a little jealous and maybe angry that I hardly text her.

How should I respond to this?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Oh God you're one of the guys that says "baby"... guys like you are fodder when I'm talking sh*t at the bars LMFAO.

Anyway, judgement aside, you're doing all the right things if she's sending you texts that long. At this point you DO NOT NEED ANY TEXT GAME, it's a matter of "don't say stupid sh*t" and getting her to your bed. Invite her out to a game (to either participate or just watch) and take it from there.
 

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I should have been clearer, shes 25yo and my gf of 6 months.

Not sure how I should respond to it is it a test? ( I didn't contact her all day/night which is why she is sarcasticly saying ''thanks for asking how my day was'' )
 

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Dude, honestly, if you don't care how her day was, don't ask. That's what her girlfriends are for.
 

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Lol that's the thing though, I don't care.

But what I'm asking is, she has sent me this text sarcasticly saying these things because I didn't let her know how my day was (I don't anyway). I think she is a little angry and is probably expecting a beta response like ''im sorry i didnt text you blah blah''
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Technics said:
Lol that's the thing though, I don't care.

But what I'm asking is, she has sent me this text sarcasticly saying these things because I didn't let her know how my day was (I don't anyway). I think she is a little angry and is probably expecting a beta response like ''im sorry i didnt text you blah blah''
She's making the classic mistake of thinking that the sh*t women care about is also something men care about.

If she's angry, she'll get over it.

If she says "I'm angry/sad/whatever" just reply with "youll get over it".

Again, that kind of sappy emotional bullsh*t is what her girlfriends/beta orbiters are for.
 

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Be sarcastic in return. I'm a big fan of throwing sh!t back at a woman when she throws one at me.

Say something along the lines of "You're welcome and thanks, I had a great day."

It will completely throw her of anything to say and she has two options. Keep being a sarcastic cvnt or be straight with you.

If she gets straight, become straight with her and tell her you had work to do. She might get all emotional and angry but don't comfort her or try to make her fell better. Leave her be.

The female mind has the amazing ability to rationalize things when left to itself. She'll quickly realize how petty she was acting then try to get your attention again with a cutesy text.
 

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El Payaso said:
Be sarcastic in return. I'm a big fan of throwing sh!t back at a woman when she throws one at me.

Say something along the lines of "You're welcome and thanks, I had a great day."

It will completely throw her of anything to say and she has two options. Keep being a sarcastic cvnt or be straight with you.

If she gets straight, become straight with her and tell her you had work to do. She might get all emotional and angry but don't comfort her or try to make her fell better. Leave her be.

The female mind has the amazing ability to rationalize things when left to itself. She'll quickly realize how petty she was acting then try to get your attention again with a cutesy text.
Haha this is exactly what just happened.
 

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Haha this is exactly what just happened.
Good. Now the power is back in your hands. You want to avoid replying too quickly to her texts. If you do, reply with very short, calm texts.

She will likely enter panic mode and make subtle or overt hints about wanting to see you. Give a vague answer like "We'll see."

If she calls you out on why you're acting different, call her and tell her you didn't like her behavior recently. She'll ask what behavior? Tell her you didn't like her need to be sarcastic and petty towards you and you don't think you can be with someone who can't respect your time.

Again, don't fall for her tricks. She will try to blame you for not contacting her, being a jerk, blah...blah...blah. Just sick to your frame and say "Look, I respect my time and I expect my partner to respect my time too" and drop the phone.

Her hamster will accept your logic and spin it to make sense to her.

Her acting needy towards you might be cute now but it won't be cute as time goes on so it's better you set things straight now. Once you do this, she will avoid, by all means necessary, constantly checking up on you.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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