"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Sh!t test or shove off? BPD or brush off?

jimjam

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Gents:

Met this one on Saturday. Hit it off great. We both seemed really into one another. I get her number, set up a date for Thursday. She texts me Sunday morning, Monday morning. Nothing wild. Just hi, good morning. I figure i'd be nice and text her yesterday. No response. Its like she went ghost. Of course, I'm not going to contact her.

Wondering if i broke frame or if she's testing me to see if I'll break down and contact her. Plus, I wonder about BPD. I know initial intense interest may be an indicator. I mean, she te c ts me two days in a row after an initial half-hour meeting?

Opinions?

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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

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Die Hard

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So if I understand correctly, she texted you on Sunday and Monday but you didn't respond both times and waited till Tuesday until you finally sent a response?

Of course she's gonna return you the favor! Hell, I would throw away your number INSTANTLY if I was her!

There's a difference between making her hamster spin a little by NOT RESPONDING IMMEDIATELY or being a total azzhole to her by IGNORING HER FOR TWO WHOLE DAYS...
 

jimjam

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Sorry

I responded both times.....in kind with her.....good morning, have a nice day
 

Malcontent

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Not really enough data to say BPD. And I do agree that you waited too long to respond.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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jimjam

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Here's an update: Surprise, surprise! She wants to reschedule tonight's date. I'm thinking of rescheduling, then calling her a day before to cancel with no mention of rescheduling. What does everyone think?
 

GS750

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high interest doeesnt indicate BPD. Do a search and you'll find a pretty big list of things that indicate that she may be a cluster B. You see those signs then you bail.
 

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WHY are you going to go through the trouble of acting like a b1tch? go ahead and reschedule the date... things DO come up in life. IF she bails, lose the number. But don't cancel just to act like a woman..... Men have better things to do than play stupid head games..... IF you have a life,live it...
 

jimjam

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Thanks, Sobduster. That's just what I needed. Really. Not being facetious.
 
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