"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Sh!t test or shove off? BPD or brush off?

jimjam

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Gents:

Met this one on Saturday. Hit it off great. We both seemed really into one another. I get her number, set up a date for Thursday. She texts me Sunday morning, Monday morning. Nothing wild. Just hi, good morning. I figure i'd be nice and text her yesterday. No response. Its like she went ghost. Of course, I'm not going to contact her.

Wondering if i broke frame or if she's testing me to see if I'll break down and contact her. Plus, I wonder about BPD. I know initial intense interest may be an indicator. I mean, she te c ts me two days in a row after an initial half-hour meeting?

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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Die Hard

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So if I understand correctly, she texted you on Sunday and Monday but you didn't respond both times and waited till Tuesday until you finally sent a response?

Of course she's gonna return you the favor! Hell, I would throw away your number INSTANTLY if I was her!

There's a difference between making her hamster spin a little by NOT RESPONDING IMMEDIATELY or being a total azzhole to her by IGNORING HER FOR TWO WHOLE DAYS...
 

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Sorry

I responded both times.....in kind with her.....good morning, have a nice day
 

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Not really enough data to say BPD. And I do agree that you waited too long to respond.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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jimjam

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Here's an update: Surprise, surprise! She wants to reschedule tonight's date. I'm thinking of rescheduling, then calling her a day before to cancel with no mention of rescheduling. What does everyone think?
 

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high interest doeesnt indicate BPD. Do a search and you'll find a pretty big list of things that indicate that she may be a cluster B. You see those signs then you bail.
 

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WHY are you going to go through the trouble of acting like a b1tch? go ahead and reschedule the date... things DO come up in life. IF she bails, lose the number. But don't cancel just to act like a woman..... Men have better things to do than play stupid head games..... IF you have a life,live it...
 

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Thanks, Sobduster. That's just what I needed. Really. Not being facetious.
 
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