Sh!t test, low IL, or genuine confusion?

[Thorninmyside]

Yesterday I hit on a girl I already knew, who just left a guy after finding out she was one of a few things he had going on, and after setting up a date I got a text that reads like this:

"Don't book it just yet. I really WANT to see you, but I CAN'T see you atm, I don't mean that in a bad way. I'm just a bit messed up still".

Obviously I'm gonna let her reinitiate contact after that, but is she asking me to be persistent, understanding, or just to take a hint?

 

[MillionBillionaire]

That has never stopped a woman from rebounding. ..

Just run that through the translator.. "I have low IL in you but I think I want to have you stick around until something better comes along... I hope you are a good beta provider.."

I wouldn't text anything back.

 

[Jaylan]

It could be low IL, or it could just mean the chick is mature enough to know shes not ready to get involved romantically with anyone right now. Not everyone jumps at rebounds. Just date other women in the mean time and let her come to you when shes ready.

Dont read into this too much.

 

[RagingBalls]

Yesterday I hit on a girl I already knew, who just left a guy after finding out she was one of a few things he had going on, and after setting up a date I got a text that reads like this:

"Don't book it just yet. I really WANT to see you, but I CAN'T see you atm, I don't mean that in a bad way. I'm just a bit messed up still".

Obviously I'm gonna let her reinitiate contact after that, but is she asking me to be persistent, understanding, or just to take a hint?

Respect it by giving her time and space, it's a sign your a man of quality. Don't hold much unto her words and have false hopes. Remember, nothing is permanent in this world, and that includes words given by women. Just let her be,

If she has interest on you, regardless if she has a boyfriend or had just been into a break-up or messed up a bit, she'll make it easy for you, in your case i can only guess that she has 50/50 IL in you. Find other girls to go out with, reason with this was we don't want to have false hopes with words women gives us. You can never know what's really happening with her, she might have been fixing her relationship with her ex while this is happening.

So yeah, find other women and have plates. Since you were one of his options, it is deemed fair especially for a man to have MORE options.

 

[goldengoose]

You made your offer, wait for her to ger back to you. I banged a chick a 2 month ago who dropped a guy after she was feeling lonely 3 days later. When they want it they will call. Excuses come from chicks who don't.

 

[Rainman4707]

Yeah give her time.

 

[El Payaso]

At least she's not leading you on. Give her her space.

 

[GotED?]

NEXT her for now or else expect to be FRIENDZONED.

If she really wants you she will come back into your life.

Pointless chasing a headless chicken.

Lose-lose situation.

Exodus

 

[nismo-4]

Genuine confusion my ass. Here's the deal.

1. Women who are interested in you won't confuse you.

2. Women who want to see you will move a mountain to see you. Use a celebrity maxim i.e. Would she tell Channing Tatum or Ryan Gosling that she can't see them atm because she's still messed up? No, she'd quickly straighten her ass up.

3. For excuses like these, you've been placed on the backburner. Don't hold your breath.

4. Give her space. Assume your princess is in another castle and forget about her, she likely forgot about you.

5. Flakes and excuses translate to low-no interest. Have you read the official translator on this site in the tips section?

6. Don't chase the carrot. Just fall back.

Judge nismo says. That's some tips and my ruling.

Case closed.