Ok, so on the weekend I got a little (understatment) too drunk and ended up getting head froma chick, and aparantly she is fat and ugly. Guys gave me **** about it all today, and for all my inner game talk I struggled. I guess people will forget about it soon, but you guys got any advice? Think it might be hurtfull to my rep with the girls i know...
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Sh!t Ive done it this time...
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Joe The Homophobe
Master Don Juan
what grade are you in? just remember that most of the people in high school you will never see again after you get out. You just have to live with getting made fun of for now. It might hurt your rep though as you will be seen as a clown by the hotties not as a dj. You think a dj will be so careless as to get sucked off by some fattie at a party of all places with lots of people around?
Joe The Homophobe
Master Don Juan
you will be seen as the clown that got sucked off by the fattie. Definitely a big hit to your rep with the desirable ladies.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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thats awesome lol definately use that. just laugh with them and be like "yea i was so drunk idk what i was thinking haha" or some **** like thatNighthawk said:
and yea at least now its a funny story to tell people in the future lol
Ahahahaha thanks Nighthawk that is gold! Normally I'm good with dealing with other people's sh!t but this got to me for some reason, maybe because it was actually true and I wish I hadn't done it. Anyway I was looking at it like well now I have some more experiance and I've learnt a lot, and any pain in a great oppurtunity for enlightenment. Those thoughts didn't make the feeling go away. However people always stop talking after a few days but I feltreally bad to be honest when I posted this. The problem just is where I live it's so small and everyone knows everything, the chick probably knows all the stuff I've said about it.
I know this is a long shot but MAYBE at least it got some chicks thinking about me sexually? lol, I have had a nice guy image in the past after all. Still is publicity in any case. Anyhow it's only guys who are being douchebags about it.
Some things I've learnt:
-If one of your mates is getting crap from people help him out you will get serious respect from it, and probably more respect from other people than just laughing at it.
-Obviously be carefull with alcahol. I know I don't need it for my game now but I hadn't drank for ages so I thought 'what could it hurt?'. Oh yeah. Oops. The thing is if you stay sober at parties and chicks get drunk, you can't get with 'em, well I wouldn't anyway because it's against my morals and you get the rep as the 'guy who takes advataged of drunk girls'. At least when sober you keep your judgement.
-Don't trust your mates to look after you unless you really know they are good for it.
-People actually have feelings behind posts, so before you go and give them a harsh comment that doesn't really help, think twice. Yes I'm very guilty of this myself.
-Don't spread **** about people, it's pathetic, people find out and others don't respect you for it.
Anyway I figure I'm all the more stronger for it. Gotta look at the bright say ey?
I know this is a long shot but MAYBE at least it got some chicks thinking about me sexually? lol, I have had a nice guy image in the past after all. Still is publicity in any case. Anyhow it's only guys who are being douchebags about it.
Some things I've learnt:
-If one of your mates is getting crap from people help him out you will get serious respect from it, and probably more respect from other people than just laughing at it.
-Obviously be carefull with alcahol. I know I don't need it for my game now but I hadn't drank for ages so I thought 'what could it hurt?'. Oh yeah. Oops. The thing is if you stay sober at parties and chicks get drunk, you can't get with 'em, well I wouldn't anyway because it's against my morals and you get the rep as the 'guy who takes advataged of drunk girls'. At least when sober you keep your judgement.
-Don't trust your mates to look after you unless you really know they are good for it.
-People actually have feelings behind posts, so before you go and give them a harsh comment that doesn't really help, think twice. Yes I'm very guilty of this myself.
-Don't spread **** about people, it's pathetic, people find out and others don't respect you for it.
Anyway I figure I'm all the more stronger for it. Gotta look at the bright say ey?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Your whole mindset is overall bad. You care too much about what people think(Worrying about it being hurtful to you rep). Did you enjoy the head? If so, there's no problem. Stop giving such a f*ck what everyone thinks about you. People give me sh*t all the time, but I don't make a big deal out of it because it just really doesn't matter to me.SinJester said:
Yeah I know ElStud, and you are obviously someone who honestly doesn't give a damn. It's always been a problem for me and I thought I was working towards indifferance but then BAM, feels lik I've taken a lot of steps backward, you know how that feels?
It is one thing to say 'just don't give a ****', and people say it all the time. But how many people actually see that and do it? I bet its hardly any. It's one thing to say it, it's another to actually reach it. Would you like to share how you reached that level?
It's like my minds knows whats going on (and I think thats the first step), but my body still has the reflex reactions that bring up bad emotions when something like this happens. You can think 'don't care don't care' and you still have that feeling. Is it just a time thing?
I know my mind that its just an oppurtunity, experiance, growth. But I still feel like sh!t. Somewhere I need to learn how to control emotions better, and right not I'm not exactly sure how to do that, and I know it is something a lot of peope struggle with...
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Just thought it would add this... All my time here has really taughed me how to deal with emotional issues about women. One-itus is a think of the past, I don't take crap from them, they don't intimidate me and I don't fall into AFC ways of doing things. On that road I'm far down the path. This hasn't covered up any of my issues with just people in general, guys, guy friends, girls that are actually friends etc. Give me a hot girl that's being a ***** and I might neg her, use C+F and end up unphased, but get a couple guys giving me crap and I don't know what to do...
It is one thing to say 'just don't give a ****', and people say it all the time. But how many people actually see that and do it? I bet its hardly any. It's one thing to say it, it's another to actually reach it. Would you like to share how you reached that level?
It's like my minds knows whats going on (and I think thats the first step), but my body still has the reflex reactions that bring up bad emotions when something like this happens. You can think 'don't care don't care' and you still have that feeling. Is it just a time thing?
I know my mind that its just an oppurtunity, experiance, growth. But I still feel like sh!t. Somewhere I need to learn how to control emotions better, and right not I'm not exactly sure how to do that, and I know it is something a lot of peope struggle with...
EDIT:
Just thought it would add this... All my time here has really taughed me how to deal with emotional issues about women. One-itus is a think of the past, I don't take crap from them, they don't intimidate me and I don't fall into AFC ways of doing things. On that road I'm far down the path. This hasn't covered up any of my issues with just people in general, guys, guy friends, girls that are actually friends etc. Give me a hot girl that's being a ***** and I might neg her, use C+F and end up unphased, but get a couple guys giving me crap and I don't know what to do...
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
