Ok, so on the weekend I got a little (understatment) too drunk and ended up getting head froma chick, and aparantly she is fat and ugly. Guys gave me **** about it all today, and for all my inner game talk I struggled. I guess people will forget about it soon, but you guys got any advice? Think it might be hurtfull to my rep with the girls i know...
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Sh!t Ive done it this time...
- Thread starter SinJester
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Joe The Homophobe
Master Don Juan
what grade are you in? just remember that most of the people in high school you will never see again after you get out. You just have to live with getting made fun of for now. It might hurt your rep though as you will be seen as a clown by the hotties not as a dj. You think a dj will be so careless as to get sucked off by some fattie at a party of all places with lots of people around?
Joe The Homophobe
Master Don Juan
you will be seen as the clown that got sucked off by the fattie. Definitely a big hit to your rep with the desirable ladies.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
goldenrocker91
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thats awesome lol definately use that. just laugh with them and be like "yea i was so drunk idk what i was thinking haha" or some **** like thatNighthawk said:
and yea at least now its a funny story to tell people in the future lol
Ahahahaha thanks Nighthawk that is gold! Normally I'm good with dealing with other people's sh!t but this got to me for some reason, maybe because it was actually true and I wish I hadn't done it. Anyway I was looking at it like well now I have some more experiance and I've learnt a lot, and any pain in a great oppurtunity for enlightenment. Those thoughts didn't make the feeling go away. However people always stop talking after a few days but I feltreally bad to be honest when I posted this. The problem just is where I live it's so small and everyone knows everything, the chick probably knows all the stuff I've said about it.
I know this is a long shot but MAYBE at least it got some chicks thinking about me sexually? lol, I have had a nice guy image in the past after all. Still is publicity in any case. Anyhow it's only guys who are being douchebags about it.
Some things I've learnt:
-If one of your mates is getting crap from people help him out you will get serious respect from it, and probably more respect from other people than just laughing at it.
-Obviously be carefull with alcahol. I know I don't need it for my game now but I hadn't drank for ages so I thought 'what could it hurt?'. Oh yeah. Oops. The thing is if you stay sober at parties and chicks get drunk, you can't get with 'em, well I wouldn't anyway because it's against my morals and you get the rep as the 'guy who takes advataged of drunk girls'. At least when sober you keep your judgement.
-Don't trust your mates to look after you unless you really know they are good for it.
-People actually have feelings behind posts, so before you go and give them a harsh comment that doesn't really help, think twice. Yes I'm very guilty of this myself.
-Don't spread **** about people, it's pathetic, people find out and others don't respect you for it.
Anyway I figure I'm all the more stronger for it. Gotta look at the bright say ey?
I know this is a long shot but MAYBE at least it got some chicks thinking about me sexually? lol, I have had a nice guy image in the past after all. Still is publicity in any case. Anyhow it's only guys who are being douchebags about it.
Some things I've learnt:
-If one of your mates is getting crap from people help him out you will get serious respect from it, and probably more respect from other people than just laughing at it.
-Obviously be carefull with alcahol. I know I don't need it for my game now but I hadn't drank for ages so I thought 'what could it hurt?'. Oh yeah. Oops. The thing is if you stay sober at parties and chicks get drunk, you can't get with 'em, well I wouldn't anyway because it's against my morals and you get the rep as the 'guy who takes advataged of drunk girls'. At least when sober you keep your judgement.
-Don't trust your mates to look after you unless you really know they are good for it.
-People actually have feelings behind posts, so before you go and give them a harsh comment that doesn't really help, think twice. Yes I'm very guilty of this myself.
-Don't spread **** about people, it's pathetic, people find out and others don't respect you for it.
Anyway I figure I'm all the more stronger for it. Gotta look at the bright say ey?
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Your whole mindset is overall bad. You care too much about what people think(Worrying about it being hurtful to you rep). Did you enjoy the head? If so, there's no problem. Stop giving such a f*ck what everyone thinks about you. People give me sh*t all the time, but I don't make a big deal out of it because it just really doesn't matter to me.SinJester said:
Yeah I know ElStud, and you are obviously someone who honestly doesn't give a damn. It's always been a problem for me and I thought I was working towards indifferance but then BAM, feels lik I've taken a lot of steps backward, you know how that feels?
It is one thing to say 'just don't give a ****', and people say it all the time. But how many people actually see that and do it? I bet its hardly any. It's one thing to say it, it's another to actually reach it. Would you like to share how you reached that level?
It's like my minds knows whats going on (and I think thats the first step), but my body still has the reflex reactions that bring up bad emotions when something like this happens. You can think 'don't care don't care' and you still have that feeling. Is it just a time thing?
I know my mind that its just an oppurtunity, experiance, growth. But I still feel like sh!t. Somewhere I need to learn how to control emotions better, and right not I'm not exactly sure how to do that, and I know it is something a lot of peope struggle with...
EDIT:
Just thought it would add this... All my time here has really taughed me how to deal with emotional issues about women. One-itus is a think of the past, I don't take crap from them, they don't intimidate me and I don't fall into AFC ways of doing things. On that road I'm far down the path. This hasn't covered up any of my issues with just people in general, guys, guy friends, girls that are actually friends etc. Give me a hot girl that's being a ***** and I might neg her, use C+F and end up unphased, but get a couple guys giving me crap and I don't know what to do...
It is one thing to say 'just don't give a ****', and people say it all the time. But how many people actually see that and do it? I bet its hardly any. It's one thing to say it, it's another to actually reach it. Would you like to share how you reached that level?
It's like my minds knows whats going on (and I think thats the first step), but my body still has the reflex reactions that bring up bad emotions when something like this happens. You can think 'don't care don't care' and you still have that feeling. Is it just a time thing?
I know my mind that its just an oppurtunity, experiance, growth. But I still feel like sh!t. Somewhere I need to learn how to control emotions better, and right not I'm not exactly sure how to do that, and I know it is something a lot of peope struggle with...
EDIT:
Just thought it would add this... All my time here has really taughed me how to deal with emotional issues about women. One-itus is a think of the past, I don't take crap from them, they don't intimidate me and I don't fall into AFC ways of doing things. On that road I'm far down the path. This hasn't covered up any of my issues with just people in general, guys, guy friends, girls that are actually friends etc. Give me a hot girl that's being a ***** and I might neg her, use C+F and end up unphased, but get a couple guys giving me crap and I don't know what to do...
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
