"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Sexy is... Emotional Maturity

ethnomethodologist

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Being calm, when somebody calls you out in front of your girl.
Not snapping at someone when they make a lame joke.
Not insulting people uselessly without there being humor inflected.

Emotionally mature guys can control themselves around a woman. Ever hear that patience is the defined sense of confidence? Well that is one of the overlappins functions of the social dynamic. Being emotionally mature means you can control your emotions, your emotions don't spur you into ecstasy without there being good reason.

This site thrives on emotional immaturity though.

What is emotional maturity to you guys? How do you notice it in people?

How can you tell a 30 year old crybaby, from an 18 year old man?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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theSpeculator

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A lot of you can talk the talk. But can you walk the walk?

Emotional secure people tend to have high self-esteem. They alway seems very calm most of the time. You will see it in the way they act. As a rule of thumb, they tend to act more mature.

While emotional insecure people are the opposite. They tend to act very immature.
 
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