"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Sexual then She Doesn't want to Ruin The Friendship??

dude99

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Met up with her today. She said she was feeling under the weather but we spent a long time laughing our asses off in the library, making fun of the other people there, talking about penises, ***** flaps, etc. We actually got a ****-ton of prep-work done on her assignment the whole time! She messaged a professional photographer who responded almost right away, so I helped fix up her basic ideas (she has ADD amongst other difficulties but is very cute and funny) She whacked me on the arm for the naughty comments I was making, she said her back was itchy so I scratched it, brushed my arm against hers without her flinching and even showed her how to high-five properly. (Haha)

Said I had a great time and she said she was down to meet-up again in two days time. At first she seemed down to meet at my place for a movie and not play pool but I think her ASD kicked in. Going to keep trying as its gotten me this far.
Do not put too much thought or stock in this chick. Go date other women.

A back scratch and an arm rub? Next she will want a foot rub.

Dude. Time for some red pill. A chick who has friendzoned you will let you scratch her back/rub her back/feet/ whatever. Its giving her validation.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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GuitarOnFire

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Pretty much FUBAR right now. She had a great time yesterday and probably appreciated the help with her assignment but as soon as I invited her for a movie at my place yesterday, I started hitting walls. "MMMmm idk" kept coming up.. In the past, she kept giving me "idk" when I tried for weeks to meet (if I remember rightly) so I kept trying. Then I invited her out downtown and that also hit the "Mmmm idk" once it came time for her to agree/disagree, so she clearly wasn't interested even though I misinterpreted "Nope never been lol" as a request to invite her to join me.

Just responded with "Aiight :)" and going to talk to someone else. She is too flighty as much as I enjoyed our hour or so together. #fack
 

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Pretty much FUBAR right now. She had a great time yesterday and probably appreciated the help with her assignment but as soon as I invited her for a movie at my place yesterday, I started hitting walls. "MMMmm idk" kept coming up.. In the past, she kept giving me "idk" when I tried for weeks to meet (if I remember rightly) so I kept trying. Then I invited her out downtown and that also hit the "Mmmm idk" once it came time for her to agree/disagree, so she clearly wasn't interested even though I misinterpreted "Nope never been lol" as a request to invite her to join me.

Just responded with "Aiight :)" and going to talk to someone else. She is too flighty as much as I enjoyed our hour or so together. #fack
Mmmm idk = no.

Stop wasting your time on her.
 

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Yeah. It's done. I figure she thought that was her final rejection as I was chill about it but she hasn't reached out at all today. Girls make horrible friends anyways.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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