You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Do not put too much thought or stock in this chick. Go date other women.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
" and going to talk to someone else. She is too flighty as much as I enjoyed our hour or so together. #fackMmmm idk = no.Pretty much FUBAR right now. She had a great time yesterday and probably appreciated the help with her assignment but as soon as I invited her for a movie at my place yesterday, I started hitting walls. "MMMmm idk" kept coming up.. In the past, she kept giving me "idk" when I tried for weeks to meet (if I remember rightly) so I kept trying. Then I invited her out downtown and that also hit the "Mmmm idk" once it came time for her to agree/disagree, so she clearly wasn't interested even though I misinterpreted "Nope never been lol" as a request to invite her to join me.
Just responded with "Aiight
Agreed.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.