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So had this girl come over on the weekend, was a massive build up planned for weeks and she made it clear sex was on the table. Long story short was a great night and we end up in the bedroom, after 15 mins or so of awkward foreplay it becomes evident Im not going to perform.

Ive had this theory for a while in which if you dont smash them through the bed on the first encounter that your chances of another round is next to 0. The thing that sucks is Ive known this girl for 20 years and used to flirt with her massively back in the day, we both get married etc and then divorced. She comes over ready to pick off where we left off and I give her a night like this. Im so disappointed in the outcome, I mean this was my time to shine after all that build up and I got nothing.

I mean dont get me wrong I had another girl phone me at 11pm the night before (drunk) and ask to come over where she drained me dry. That and on the night with the girl in question we were drunk and high. Still its just so annoying as a guy to get into these situations and only at that moment realise your not up for it.

I dumped 20 mg of cialis as well to no effect. I guess now that Im 43 I just rely on the D to back me up in these situations anymore. Whats worse is after that I got all emotive as we fell asleep, talk about losing complete frame.

Anyway I guess you go through these experiences to learn but god damn it after reading thousands of how to's Im still not there yet.
 

RobbyDog

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Happens to the best of us. If she’s truly into you, it won’t make any difference. Many women will actually take it as a challenge ie “do I not turn him on?”
 

corsica

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I like to take Viagra (50mg) before foreplay or Cialis 5mg (a day before and another the same day the date). It improves performance and It's a good way to cause a good impression. Then you don't have to worry next time. I use it as insurance.

If you had a Cialis (20mg is quite strong) and it didn't work, it might be psychological. Or maybe some fake generic (or expired?).

If you're in shape and have a normal (active) lifestyle, and still continue with such problem, look for a professional. I think you can call those tele-doctors that don't charge much for a consultation.
 

kookdekoo

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It's all in the mind...a cliché I know, but true. I'm 55. I used to meet a lady once every week for sex. I took care not to masturbate whole week long even if I felt horny midweek. Let the sexual hunger peak. Then , one hour before the rendezvous, I took 50 mg. Viagra and 30 mg. Depoxitine. By the time we were naked in a hotel room, the meds had kicked in and the D performed superbly. At least three marathon rounds.
I guess in your case , you were sexually sated and then, no amount of Cialis is going to work.
Wish you luck for the second encounter...
 

IamtheAlphamale

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So had this girl come over on the weekend, was a massive build up planned for weeks and she made it clear sex was on the table. Long story short was a great night and we end up in the bedroom, after 15 mins or so of awkward foreplay it becomes evident Im not going to perform.

Ive had this theory for a while in which if you dont smash them through the bed on the first encounter that your chances of another round is next to 0. The thing that sucks is Ive known this girl for 20 years and used to flirt with her massively back in the day, we both get married etc and then divorced. She comes over ready to pick off where we left off and I give her a night like this. Im so disappointed in the outcome, I mean this was my time to shine after all that build up and I got nothing.

I mean dont get me wrong I had another girl phone me at 11pm the night before (drunk) and ask to come over where she drained me dry. That and on the night with the girl in question we were drunk and high. Still its just so annoying as a guy to get into these situations and only at that moment realise your not up for it.

I dumped 20 mg of cialis as well to no effect. I guess now that Im 43 I just rely on the D to back me up in these situations anymore. Whats worse is after that I got all emotive as we fell asleep, talk about losing complete frame.

Anyway I guess you go through these experiences to learn but god damn it after reading thousands of how to's Im still not there yet.
You can fix all sexual issues with hypnosis. I've already done this, so it works. Mark bowden is the hypnosis guy I use. He has an app for cheap. Get on his email list. You can get lifetime subscription for under 300 when it's on sale.

You gotta stick to the one type of session at a time. So stronger and harder errections or the sex drive one. One at a time. Just do it in the morning and then fall asleep to it at night also. Do that for like 3 weeks for each issue. I strongly advise to just keep at it. And continue with more stuff forever.
 

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D!ck issues from what I understand are either:

  • an issue with bad cardiovascular health/clogged arteries full of cholesterol/plaque/calcium from bad eating habits <-- It this majority of the of the time
  • or Really bad connotation to sex and sex acts keeping you frm getting aroused sexually
  • or Porn induced from raising your visual threshhold to only be turned on by beautiful looking women with amazing bodies doing all types of crazy sex acts with multiple people, and various sexual themes that add to the allure
I think it can be a combination of both/all those things.

I have a friend whos a urologist and can get me pills and all that like viagra and cialis but I never once needed any of that stuff.
Just be active, play basksetball or do some type of cardio daily, lift weights, eat healthy..

If its porn induced ,stop watching porn.
 

IamtheAlphamale

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D!ck issues from what I understand are either:

  • an issue with bad cardiovascular health/clogged arteries full of cholesterol/plaque/calcium from bad eating habits <-- It this majority of the of the time
  • or Really bad connotation to sex and sex acts keeping you frm getting aroused sexually
  • or Porn induced from raising your visual threshhold to only be turned on by beautiful looking women with amazing bodies doing all types of crazy sex acts with multiple people, and various sexual themes that add to the allure
I think it can be a combination of both/all those things.

I have a friend whos a urologist and can get me pills and all that like viagra and cialis but I never once needed any of that stuff.
Just be active, play basksetball or do some type of cardio daily, lift weights, eat healthy..

If its porn induced ,stop watching porn.
If you watch porn a lot your body rewires you to get aroused from it instead of real women and releases prolactin into your body each time you ejactulate which stops testosterone from building. And over time if you do it enough this changes your brain and you have problems getting hard. That's why porn is so bad.

But yeah, if you do hypnosis it will fix it. But lay off the porn.
 

IamtheAlphamale

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If you watch porn a lot your body rewires you to get aroused from it instead of real women and releases prolactin into your body each time you ejactulate which stops testosterone from building. And over time if you do it enough this changes your brain and you have problems getting hard. That's why porn is so bad.

But yeah, if you do hypnosis it will fix it. But lay off the porn.
Also over time this will change your confidence level by having lower testosterone over the medium term. Also a lot of medicine will become less effective.

Stay away from jerking off and images of women on screens. Testosterone is needed for harder erections and sex drive and you won't approach as much without it. Porn ruins men's brains if done a bunch. There's a lot of problems associated with porn.
 

BooBoosHelix

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Alot People dismiss this but the pelvis area can get very tight and restrict blood flow from decades of sitting, posture, stress. I had ED for 3 month once and Yoga and hot baths etc turned it back on. Very scary feeling
 
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