"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Sex with my Ex - Should I?

YeeZus

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Hi Guys,

So we broke up this January and we haven't been in contact for about 5 months. Later I got a new job and found out she was actually working for the same firm and her desk was just nearby. We ended up talking, spending time together but she has no feelings for me but I DO HAVE FEELINGS for her.

Last week we ended up having sex. Do you think I should continue know the fact I still have feelings for her and she wants to be close friends?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Aesthetix29

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Personally i wouldn't.. youre going to end up getting hurt and the last 5 month of healing will be for nothing as youll be at square 1 again... Do not bang her again unless you have your emotions under control. Thats my 2 cents GL whatever you do buddy.
 

foreverace87

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Yea man, I wouldnt do it either. From personal experience, it draws you in even more to the point of no return. You will suffer! Keep moving forward and dont look back. As mentioned previously, the months of work would be of no use if you go right back in. Stay strong and date other chicks!
 

Poop1337

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Don't be close friends, but yes keep having sex with her. If she has become a buffer for you not to be approaching and dating other girls then drop it. If you can have sex with her and still be making your approaches and spinning your plates then yes have sex.

I think you owe it to yourself to screw her and get dates with other girls. She can be part of your harem.

Read blogs like heartiste and the rational male if you have magical fantasies of love about this girl. Work out your issues dude or you'll just have the same problems with the next girl.

i'd have sex with my ex's if I conveniently could and I'd do so with out being their friend or loving them. I don't believe in love anymore not in the magical I love that girl sense.
 

Tomo

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Highlighted is all you need to know. No p*ssy is worth your career or dignity and trust me I can guarantee it will cost you either or both down the track.

YeeZus said:
Hi Guys,

So we broke up this January and we haven't been in contact for about 5 months. Later I got a new job and found out she was actually working for the same firm and her desk was just nearby. We ended up talking, spending time together but she has no feelings for me but I DO HAVE FEELINGS for her.

Last week we ended up having sex. Do you think I should continue know the fact I still have feelings for her and she wants to be close friends?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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El Payaso

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Guard your heart.
 

TheVirtualMind

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I wouldn't. The fact that YOU still have feelings for HER after 5 months of breaking up isn't doing you any favors.
 

asa_don

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YeeZus said:
Hi Guys,

So we broke up this January and we haven't been in contact for about 5 months. Later I got a new job and found out she was actually working for the same firm and her desk was just nearby. We ended up talking, spending time together but she has no feelings for me but I DO HAVE FEELINGS for her.

Last week we ended up having sex. Do you think I should continue know the fact I still have feelings for her and she wants to be close friends?
so you banged an ex who is now a co worker? watch out when the sh!t hits the fan, you could be out of the firm, or she will toss you out like yesterday's newspaper when your feelings become known.
 
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