"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Sex with ex-gf/my son's mother??

cdoubled05

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My ex-gf who is also the mother of my soon to be three year old child recently ended our LTR of almost five years. We have been seperated for almost a month probably. At first I wanted her back so bad and felt that I still really loved her seriously. As time went on I felt more and more like trying to fix what was broken was a bad idea. Now I am prepared for moving on and meeting new women. I am only 20 years old after all. I have started reading the DJ bible and bootcamp again. Great stuff, makes my breakup not so depressing when I think about getting with new women in future.

I still see my ex quite frequently as she is the mother of my son. I really would like to have sex with my ex again. How should I go about doing this? Should I just straight out tell her? I rubbed her leg's a little bit today when I was laying on her bed, I haven't touched her like that since we've split up. I also gave her a little kiss goodbye when she dropped my son and I off today. This is the first time I've kissed her since we brokeup. I dont want to try to fix what we had, I just want some sex.

More background info: She was my first serious relationship and the first and only girl I've ever had sex with. We started dating pretty early, like when we were both around 16 years old. She dumped me because I was not showing her enough love, respect, and understanding that would normally go along with a LTR with the mother of your child. Thanks for any advice.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Wyldfire

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It's not a good idea to try to turn the mother or father of your child into a "FB". It will just lead to a lot of nastiness. If you want to try to work out your problems and be a family, then do that. If you don't, then do NOT be more than parents to your child with each other.
 

cdoubled05

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I thought it might not be a good idea, I cant help but think about it when I'm with her though. What about maybe just one more time, would that honestly be so bad?
 

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You will not listen to ANY advice that will be given to you. I have a friend who is in similar position as you are. He will not stop going back to her. On top of the sex its connection to the mother and the kid that is so deep it is going to be impossible to break unless you are willing to break it.

You are not ready, which in turn will make you very unhappy and depressed individual.

I'm reaching that conclusion because of how I see my friend and what he is going through, similar to yours.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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cdoubled05

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If I didn't want advice I wouldn't have posted my problem here. I appreciate all advice from anyone who takes the time to respond. I do believe you all are correct in this matter. I will not let my emotions get the best of me. I will continue to keep our relationship sex free.
 

Bourne

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cdoubled05 said:
If I didn't want advice I wouldn't have posted my problem here. I appreciate all advice from anyone who takes the time to respond. I do believe you all are correct in this matter. I will not let my emotions get the best of me. I will continue to keep our relationship sex free.
Good to hear man.
 
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