"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Sex with a friend: yes or no?

Bullman

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Well, here is the story. (My english sucks, but i´ll try)

I have a friend girl. Her name is Ana. She´s incredibly intelligent and her beauty is an... 8, let´s say.

I like to be with her because she helps me to find another girls, more beautyful than she is. When girls see me with her, they look at me in a different way and I have more chances at bars and pubs just for being with Ana.

I own her a lot of nights of pleasure, and sure she knows it.

Well, now she wants to be with me, she told that "some things are happening when she thinks of me" (I laughed at her and change subjects when she told me that) and a lot of green lights had appear on the way.

I really want to have sex with her, BUT I´m affraid to lose her friendship and her help if I do it.... WHICH MEANS: Not as much girls as right now.

It´s a matter of short term interests (sex with Ana) versus long term interests (sex with a lot of girls thanks to Ana´s presence by me side).

I don´t consider myself to be a REAL friend (I want her just for my personal interests) but I don´t want to hurt she or lose her friendship.

What should I do?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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MMAer

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Do not have sex with this girl. If you value her friendship for whatever reason. Even if it's only to get with other girls. I made this mistake once with a close female friend now she has a boyfriend and things a weird between us we never hang out and theres just a weird vibe.
 

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You can only be friends with fat chicks. **** the hot ones.
 

Azmodan

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Controversial subject, imo. Usually, I'd say, if you mean friends in the sense that you talk occasionally, you've known each other a while, and nothing's happened but now, for some reason, it might... then no big deal.

If you're hanging out with this girl pretty consistently I'd stay away from it because the feelings involved a probably a little stronger.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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