Sex Tips to Please Women

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Sex Tips to Please Women
Note: This is not ALL my original work.

Table of Contents

1. Intro
2. Anal Play
3. Cunnilingus
4. Erogenous Zones
5. Female Ejaculation
6. Fingering
7. Grafenberg Spot
8. Orgasms During Intercourse
9. Further Reading


1. Intro

Every woman is different and likes different types of stimulation.

To become a master of sexual pleasuring, you must first understand that this will not happen overnight. The most important skill to learn is the ability to read your lady’s body and, unless you are telepathic, this will take some time. Don’t get us wrong, using the techniques, tips and information we are offering will help you have a better understanding of the female anatomy, be safer, and improve your repertoire; there is a big difference between knowing the techniques and being able to apply them correctly.

While you are learning, we can’t stress enough the importance of communication in a sexual relationship. Whether it be a talk before, during or after, feedback is essential to learn what does and doesn’t work.



2. Anal Play

Anal Fingering & Analingus

Before you start poking around her backside, make sure that your partner is ok with it. Some women are not, and won’t react gently when they feel an “intruder”. If you want to try, but your partner doesn’t, don’t try to force them to do it. You have a much better chance that she will try to do it if you have her cooperation, rather than arguing with you. Bring the topic up gently on occasion, and help her open up to this experience by getting her comfortable in the area and with the idea.

Without going too close to her anus, explore her inner thighs and bum with your hands and mouth. Some women have had bad experiences with anal play in their history, mostly because their partner moved much faster, or less gently, than they should have. If this is true in your case, getting her to talk about the topic is a great way to start. By learning where they went wrong, you can prevent that experience from happening again.

Cleanliness is essential with virtually all forms of this form of play. A bath or a shower is a great primer, and can be the start of the festivities. Once your finger(s), penis, or sex toy has been inside her anus, don't put it anywhere else until you wash it. Carelessness in this regard can cause a very serious infection.

Make sure to use a good lubricant (and plenty of it!), and start as slowly as possible the first few times. Assess her responses to your actions and react accordingly

Analingus

Before engaging in analingus, make sure to thoroughly wash the area. Once clean, licking this area of the body is virtually no different then licking any other, and can be very stimulating for your partner. Like other play in this area, don’t just jump right in; build up to it and allow for your partner to get comfortable. A great way to start performing analingus is to move into it when you are performing cunnilingus. The area is really sensitive, so run your tongue around in circular motions, use your tongue to tickle, and when you are both ready for it, even to penetrate.

Access to her anus is a little tougher then to her vagina, but there are several positions that are ideal; lying on her back with a large pillow to arch her bum up, her sitting on your face, her bent over with legs spread, lying on her back pulling her legs back, and her upside down with her legs spread.

Anal Fingering

Using her natural vaginal lubricant or salvia may work, but we strongly recommend that you use lubricant, especially the first few times. If you are paranoid about what could be on your finger when you pull it out, a regular or finger condom may be a good idea. Apply a fair amount of lubricant on your finger, and start by making little circles around her anus with a finger. If you feel her clenching her bum, you need to find a way to help her relax, as progressing deeper while she is “tight” will only cause another bad experience. Kissing her on the mouth and all over her body, performing cunnilingus, are just a few ways to ease her anxieties. If you get a chance to put on some music and candles ahead of time, it should help her be more comfortable.

Once inside, you can start playing to see what she likes. Start slowly and softly, and make sure to pay attention to her reactions when you speed up and/or add pressure. A few basic techniques to get you started are move your finger in a circular motion exploring the walls of her rectum, moving in circular motions along a specific region, moving in and out, rotating your hand to spin your finger. After learning what you can from these techniques, start mixing two, three or more of them together. Just always remember that it is a very sensitive area; so be gentle and watch her reactions before going further.

Anal Intercourse

Anal sex is quite a different ball game than using your finger. Even if she does enjoy your finger pleasuring her there, she may be apprehensive about putting something so large as your penis in there. The keys to success are; plenty of lubrication, relaxation on her part, and a slow, gentle approach. Let her tell you when she wants it harder or faster and don't be shy about playing with her vagina at the same time. .

Anal Toys

Butt Plugs

A butt plug is a toy that is inserted in the rectum. Once inserted, you can leave it where it is or move it in and out. Many people enjoy the sense of fullness that butt plugs bring, much in the same way women enjoy the fullness experienced during vaginal sex. Others enjoy the sensation of inserting something in their anus.

Butt plugs come in many different shapes and sizes. Some of the sizes seem silly, but some people are obsessed with larger toys, so the companies willingly accommodate. The most popular plugs are less than an inch in diameter, and roughly 4 inches long.

Climax Beads

Beads are some of the most popular anal toys. They range from soft to firm-textured, usually consist of four to ten balls connected with a piece of nylon cord or plastic/rubber, and there are a wide selection in ball sizes. Whichever type you are interested in, they are virtually the best toys to ease into anal play.

Climax beads are a very simple toy to use. After being covered by lubricant, they are inserted into the anus bead by bead. Most people then leave the beads where they are until near the point of orgasm, at which time the beads are pulled out one by one. This can greatly intensify an orgasm to the point that it is too intense to handle. We suggest starting with smaller balls, and then moving up, as you get more experienced.

And like everything else involved with anal play, cleanliness is of the highest importance. Make sure to clean your toy thoroughly after using it, store it in a dry dust free place, and be very gentle when starting out.

 

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3. Cunnilingus

Cunnilingus Techniques

Performing cunnilingus can be one of the most wonderful things you can do for a woman. It makes her feel loved, admired, sexy, and has the potential to give her an exceptional orgasm. Many women prefer it to intercourse, and for those who require a large amount of ****oral stimulation, it is the easiest way to orgasm. Besides, lots of women expect it these days and men who perform great cunnilingus are always appreciated and considered fabulous lovers.

There is little more exciting to a woman than to know that her partner finds her delicious; meaning that you enjoy the taste, smell and feeling of her vaginal juices. At the same time, there is little less exciting to a woman than to think that you don’t like the taste and smell of her most intimate region. If your partner has a smell that is more than you can handle, or she doesn’t feel comfortable with you down there (thinking you won’t like the smell), suggest taking a nice hot shower or bath together.


Remember, there is almost nothing you can do that will feel bad (so long as you are gentle), so relax! Any licking and sucking of the labia, vaginal entrance, ****oris, or anal area should feel great to your partner. Also, once you find something that works, don’t stray too far away from it unless you are moving to something that works better, or if you are teasing.

Oral Techniques

The Lick

Leaving your tongue soft and jaw relaxed, try licking her from vaginal entrance up to her **** and following the outer edges of her vagina along both sides. Repeating this technique going up and down and vice versa can be a great opener.

Labial Hold

While holding the two parts together with your lips, run your tongue between the inner and outer labia one side at a time.

Tongue Intercourse

The majority of a woman’s nerve endings in her vagina are around the opening and within the first couple of inches inside. Target them with your tongue by inserting it into her vaginal opening. Techniques are pretty limited due to the length of your tongue, but try moving your tongue in and out, as well as in circles around the inside of her opening.

The Flick

Spread her outer vaginal lips with your fingers. With your tongue pointed, gently flick your tongue around her ****oris. Feel free to roam, but keep coming back to her ****oris, as it is the most sensitive. This drives some women wild, and others find it to too intense. When stimulating her **** make sure to start out gently if you aren’t sure how she likes it. When you try this, pay attention to whether those moans are ecstasy or pain.

The following techniques should not be introduced until your partner is really hot (i.e., very wet). These are more intense techniques, and may be too intense for some women, even when nearing orgasm.

The ****oris Suck

Expose her ****oris by spreading her lips and lightly pull back her hood. With her ****oris exposed, give it a quick little suck; pulling it into your mouth briefly and letting it go. This is a lot like licking a bit of cake batter off of your pinky. This feels incredible, and is a fine thing to do if you feel like tormenting her – but don’t overdo it! We recommend not using your teeth nor using heavy suction when starting out.

The ****oris Hold

Take her exposed **** into your mouth and gently suck on it, simultaneously flicking your tongue over and around it. This can be done very lightly or very aggressively, and combined with fingering, will usually rapidly produce an intense orgasm.

The Tongue Tube

Roll your tongue into a tube (if you cannot do this, forget about it because it is genetic and you can't learn it). This technique works best in an inverted or 69 position. Roll your tongue into a tube around her ****oris. Slide it back-and-forth; in effect, your tongue is doing something similar to a woman's vagina around a man's penis. This is likely to bring any woman over the edge to an explosive orgasm.

ABC’s

Try using your tongue to spell the alphabet on her genitals. This works surprisingly well as your tongue is always moving in different directions. Learn her favorite letters and the orders that work the best!

Other Tips

A good lover’s hands never stop moving, so keep exploring, insert a finger, or massage her thighs while you perform.

You can also try using a wide variety of flavored gels, oils, and lubricants. Some of these products heat up when rubbed or blown to add extra stimulation.

Having a mint in your mouth while you are performing cunnilingus can also improve your results. The mint, as long as it is not too weak or strong, can create a very intense tingling sensation to enhance your performance.

Exercises

To be able to perform for extended periods of time, there are a number of exercises that can be used to strengthen the muscles in your mouth. Here are a few tongue exercises and positions for performing cunnilingus:

Exercise 1:

Stick your tongue as far out of your mouth as possible, and then try to touch your nose. Once you are in this position, hold the same muscle groups still and begin moving your tongue around. Practice in sets, moving the tongue clockwise, counterclockwise, and up and down.


Exercise 2:


With a loose jaw, point your tongue while simultaneously trying to keep your tongue in constant contact with the top and bottom your mouth. Once you are in this position, practice moving your tongue in and out of your mouth. For the more advanced student, try keeping your mouth closed and circling your tongue around inside of it, while of course, maintaining position. An extension to the advanced exercise is trying to dissolve a lifesaver held in your teeth from the inside out.

Exercise 3:

Stick your tongue straight out of your mouth, trying to keep your tongue flat and relaxed. Slowly, while holding the position, practice curling the wide tip of the tongue upward, downward and side-to-side. Practice in five sets of ten, holding each move for 2 seconds.

Exercise 4:


Keep your tongue relaxed and open your mouth. Move your tongue in and out of your mouth forwards and in both directions. Practice in five sets of twenty.

 

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4. Female Erogenous Zones


Her Neck

Her neck must be one of the hottest spots on the female body. There are several things to keep in mind here … but most importantly, control yourself! Hickies may have been the big thing when you were younger, but most women hate them, especially when they have to wear turtlenecks for a week! If you must suck for blood, keep the hickies to places that are usually covered by clothes. Try to have a moist mouth, but don't slobber! Cover different areas of her neck with tender kisses, using the areas under/behind the ears for extra stimulation. Light nibbling and tugging usually work really well also. Start out soft and gentle as she gets into it, slowly go harder and wilder to light that fire of passion within her.

Her Ears

Bundles of nerve endings are in and around the ears, making them ultra-sensitive to your touch. Use the pads of your index finger and thumb to massage the outer ears with slow, firm movements. Gently squeeze the earlobes. Explore the area behind the ear with your lips and tongue, and then exhale deeply but gently while you keep nibbling. Don't be shy about making noise while you're lingering there, the sound of your breath and moans is a huge turn-on for most women. Make sure to remember there is a fine line between sensual ear play and “wet willies”. Very few women enjoy having someone's tongue jammed down their ears!

Her Lips

The number one mistake guys (especially married or in long term relationships) make during sex? Not enough kissing. Women love to kiss, and many of them complain that guys just don't spend enough time on it. But don't just kiss more, also do it better. Try varying the intensity (kiss her softly, then more passionately, then slow it down again). When you're done with her lips, move on to her cheeks, eyelids, forehead, nose, neck, or earlobes (stressing neck and ears). Don’t get dull doing the same thing over and over; make sure to mix up your style. If you generally move your hands all over her body when you kiss (which, by the way, is really good), try kissing her for several minutes without letting your hands roam (focus all you passion on the kiss), and let her indicate when she's ready to move on.

Her Scalp

You've noticed that a lot of women play with their hair? It's not just a nervous habit; they do it because it feels good. Chances are she's wishing you would play with it, too. The scalp can be very sensitive to stimulation, and since she's probably not expecting you to lavish any attention on it, surprise her. Having her hair brushed can be a very sensual experience. Or run your fingers through it as you're kissing her, or, simply caress her scalp gently with your hand. Get some bonus points for washing or blow-drying, just leave the actual styling to her - you'll never get that thing with her bangs to work out right. On the other hand, some women have phobias when it comes to having their head touched; start out slow so your partner has a chance to stop you if she is one of those. Don't forget to message the back of her neck/scalp.

Her Breasts

Breasts are familiar territory for most men and they're fun, so it's unlikely you'll shortchange them. The mistake you're more likely to make is giving them too much (or too vigorous) attention before she's ready. Over-stimulating the breast can be numbing or painful for women during some parts of their menstrual cycle. Try taking the less-is-more approach. Touch her breast softly, then lift your hand away for a moment, and then continue. That allows her to have the important moment of anticipation. Stick to indirect stimulation of the nipples until they become aroused (hard) and don't just focus on the bull’s-eye; same concept as before - anticipation.

The entire breast is rich in nerve endings and all breasts have the same number of nerve endings. Thus, the woman with smaller breasts may experience increased sensations per touch. This results from a condensed amount of nerve endings. All breasts respond with time; lovers, go slow, take your time and slowly fondle the breast. Areas that are especially sensitive to touch include the nipple and the areola (the pinkish area that directly surrounds the nipple). One of the most sensitive spots, which is often ignored, is the underside of her breast. When kissing and touching her breasts, try starting around the outside and moving inward with slow circles. She may push your mouth or hand directly to her nipples, but don't let her do it, just continue moving slowly towards her nipple. Take your time; she is not going anywhere, so tease her. This whole process should take at least a few minutes. Next, wet the tip of your finger and lightly touch and roll her nipple around. Then, very lightly, using your fingertips, squeeze the nipple between them and when they are nice and hard, bring your mouth in. Note: some women enjoy nibbling and rougher play, while others are really sensitive and prefer light soft touching. Find out her preferences by asking or watching her reactions.

Her Perineum

The perineum is the area between the vagina and the anus, it is very sensitive for a lot of women and it often goes unexplored. It's made from tissue similar to the vaginal lips so there are a lot of nerve endings there. It also has an element of intimacy that might turn her on. Some girls are scared of or disgusted by anal play, so if this is the case, ease her mind by reassuring her that you are not going to do anything she is against. It's not a part of the body that's normally exposed, so she will feel like she's giving you special privileges, which can be exciting. This area is like any other area you first encounter that is sensitive, stick to a light touch at first and hold off until she's been aroused for some time. For a smoother experience, try using a little lubricant.

Her ****oris

It is located at the top juncture of her inner vaginal lips, a small knob of pink flesh. Women like different amounts of direct stimulation on their ****oris. Some women will adore it if you suck hard on their exposed ****oris, others would shriek in pain. You may encounter a woman who is completely unable to take direct stimulation of her ****; the goal is still the same, but you'll have to stimulate it indirectly, such as through her labia. Often, what is unacceptably rough at first may be fine after she's very excited (i.e., very wet). The fact is, most women need a good bit of arousal before having their ****oris targeted, but once they have reached that point, that's where many women want you to devote your attention.

Her Other Soft Spots

Here is where you can be really creative. Try tenderly kissing or caressing the backs of her knees, the insides of her arms, her inner thighs, or her palms. Women love to have these areas gently stroked, kissed, licked, or blown upon (be gentle on these areas, they are made of very soft tissue). Gentle stimulation is usually more arousing than pressure that's hard or rough. Catching her off guard can be half the fun. A lot of people don't realize that having a tongue going up their inner arm is going to be erotic. Again, we must stress that skin is the largest organ; there is lots to explore, so get at it!

Her Buttocks

Ready to get to the bottom of things? A lot of women like their buttocks attended to, and with more vigor than you might think. You can use pressure on a butt that you wouldn't use on a breast. It's not sensitive the way a nipple or a ****oris is so you can knead them and squeeze them. Many women are self conscious about their behinds, so spending time here will show her that you like it, and hopefully allow her to be more comfortable with herself and you.

The Small Of Her Back

Don't make the mistake of making her breasts the only stop on your way to the main event. That's what she's expecting. Surprise her by asking her to lie on her stomach and massage her lower back. Besides being rich in nerve endings, the small of the back has pressure points where stress can accumulate. A massage there might not turn her on in the same way that sucking on her nipple or rubbing her ****oris will, but it'll feel good and help release stress. What's more, it could even help with arousal, by increasing blood flow and engorgement in the pelvic area. Start by applying steady but moderate pressure with your fingertips and if she likes it, work up to a deeper massage. It never hurts to throw in a few kisses there as well. While you are massaging her, take a minute or so to kiss her neck, then run your tongue very softly down her spine. After this you can continue with the massage or "go for lunch!"

Her Fingers and Toes

A little creativity can go a long way when sex is involved. Here's a tip: Try sucking on her fingers or toes during foreplay or intercourse. (Granted, unless you're a contortionist, the toe thing may be a bit rough during intercourse, but you can usually find her fingers.) They're a lot more sensitive than you might think and for whatever reason, a relatively large area in the brain receives sensation for them. Lightly kissing or passionately sucking them, especially combined with the sensations you're causing in her genitals, can be incredibly erotic.

 

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5. Female Ejaculation



Let's begin by understanding what the elements of the ejaculate are. The four main ingredients are Glucose, prostatic acid phosphatase (an enzyme which is characteristic of the prostatic component of semen), urea, and creatinine. The last two ingredients are commonly found in urine, but are in lower levels than in urine. So there is some urine in the ejaculate. Some studies conclude that in some women the ejaculate is more like urine, and in other women it more like a prostate fluid. Until this question is answered fully, its safest to assume that it is a bit of both. The quantity of ejaculate can range from a few drops, to a shower of it.

Where does the ejaculate come from? There are several theories here on this, but remaining constant amongst all of them is that female ejaculation comes from G spot stimulation (please read G spot section for more information). When the G spot is stimulated over a period of time, the spongy tissue that creates this area fills with fluid.

However, when a women is about to ejaculate a series of things will occurs.

1. If you are fingering her, you will start to hear a different sound. I can't really describe the sound. It sounds like you are playing with water.....well almost....heh...heh

Nonetheless, you will hear a different sound. When you do, DON'T STOP!

2. If you are fingering her, she will start to feel a little drier, especially when you are going for multiple orgasms.

When she IS squirting, DON'T pull out. Keep going until it's all over.

Every women can ejaculate. Multiple times.


Once she ejaculated the first time, you can go for it again. Why? Read the above sentence.

When she is about to squirt, she will get the peeing sensation and therefore will probably withold the orgasm. You can tell she is holding back when you place your hand just above her pubic area and you can feel that she is really tense.

Tell her to relax and that it is not urine. If she doesn't believe then tell her to go to the bathroom and pee. When she gets the 'peeing' sensation soon after she just went to the bathroom, she will know it can't possibly be urine. Encourage her to squirt.



Remember, things will get very messy so be ready.

 

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6. Fingering

Techniques for vaginal fingering and other ****oral stimulation.

Labial Massage

Place a well lubricated hand over her labia, fingers pointing towards her anus. Pull up toward the navel and alternate hands. Explore the inner and outer lips with your fingers. Pull gently on one lip and then the other. Rub the outer lips gently between your forefinger and thumb, then the inner lips.

A-One and A-Two and a-Three

Try inserting your first two fingers into her vagina, then arch your thumb back 'hitch-hiker' style and thrust in until your thumb rests against her ****oris. Now wriggle, twist, thrust, and vibrate your hand to drive her wild.

Close But No Cigar

If your partner has a particular spot that they like to have licked or caressed, try doing so very close to but not quite on that spot. This trick will make them take longer to reach their orgasm, but they will likely have a much stronger, more powerful orgasm when they finally do.

Push Here to Start

Gently insert one finger deeply into her vagina and, when she's ready, insert a second. Then take your thumb and place it against her anus (Don't insert it). Press against her anus while you move your fingers inside her vagina.

Tap Dancing

Place the palm of your hand on her mons (the mound where her pubic hair is), and rest your fingers lightly on her vaginal lips. Rest your thumb on her thigh. Lightly but firmly press your palm onto her mons and begin to move your hand in a tiny circular motion. Your palm should not slide too much over her skin during this process. Rather, her skin should move underneath it. Repeat this process until you have done ten circles. You then raise your fingers and lightly tap her vaginal lips about once a second until you have given her ten taps. After giving the taps, rest your hand for five to ten seconds. Then repeat the whole routine over and over.

Cervix Clock

A woman's cervix can usually be found in the upper rear part of her vagina. The cervix feels like a little dome of tissue, and may also have a small cleft in the middle, like your chin. Carefully stimulate the area surrounding the cervix. Some women may enjoy this and want you to do it more often; others won't.

From the Outside

Lay your free hand over the lower part of your partner's abdomen. Experiment by applying different kinds of pressure with the top hand while fingers from your other hand are inside her vagina.

Imitations

An excellent way to learn more about pleasing your partner is to rest your fingers over hers while she is masturbating herself. Then do the reverse, with her fingers acting as guides for your own.

Off the Edge

Another form of genital massage can be done by holding a lubricated vaginal lip between your thumb and forefinger. While squeezing just a little, pull your fingers straight away from the woman's body. Your fingers will end up in the air an inch or two above her body. If she likes this, repeat it often.

Ovaries

Ask your partner to help you locate her ovaries. They can usually be felt in the deepest part of the vagina and to the far left or right. Some women will like you to massage this area, others will find it painful. Sensitivity will also vary with her menstrual status.

Proper Invite

Begin with a light, gentle caress that barely touches the inner thighs and pubic hair. Don't go much further until your partner's pelvis begins to arch upwards. Tease and caress until the lips of her vulva invite your fingers to come play.

Tracing

After applying lubrication, it might be nice to begin with one of the large outer lips. Place the lip between your thumb and forefinger, clasping it at the base where it attaches to the main part of the woman's body. Then run your fingers (or fingertip) from the lower to upper part of the lip, as though you were tracing one side of a parenthesis. Repeat this as long as your partner's feedback is positive.

Crecent Moon

Insert your thumb in her vagina, curl your palm around onto her ****oris, and rest your fingertips on top of her pubic bone. Alternate stimulation between the internal G-Spot, the ****oris, and the external G-Spot\bladder.

Four Directions

With two fingers press firmly up/side/down/side in her vagina, eight times each side.

 

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7. Grafenberg Spot

Where is the G Spot?

If your partner is lying on her back, then her Grafenberg Area, commonly known as the G Spot, is located roughly 1.5" inside her vagina on the upper wall. The most ultimate orgasms come from a woman having her G Spot stimulated. This area inside the vagina typically has a different texture; ridged (not as smooth) as the rest of her vagina, and when aroused feels spongy. A G Spot orgasm is often associated with the mystical legend of female ejaculation and 15-30 minutes of a euphoric sensation where she is in complete bliss... Don't expect much from her during this time, she is in heaven.

G Spot Technique

With your fingers approximately two to three inches in, move your fingers in even circles all around the inside of the vagina. It generally feels best if you keep consistent, firm pressure along the entire length of the vaginal walls while fingering. You may wish to give a LITTLE extra pressure towards her belly as long as you don't break the steady rotational rhythm. Stop rotating your fingers and rest your fingertips on the (usually slightly ridged) area of the vagina just behind the pubic bone and exert pressure towards her belly (upwards). This is direct G Spot stimulation, and it usually feels best if the fingers are subtly moving. You can move your fingers in small, slow circles, or point your fingers more sharply and rock them back and forth.

An advanced and very successful technique is a combination of the two. Trace the inside of her vagina with your finger(s), while moving in and out. Make sure that your fingertip always hits the g spot on each rotation. Finding a nice rhythm is critical in this technique, and when you get it right, she’ll be asking you how you learned that!

Stimulating G Spot During Intercourse

This topic is covered in greater detail in the vaginal intercourse article in the Intercourse section, but keep in mind the angle you position yourself during intercourse. Being able to stimulate the G Spot during intercourse will definitely increase the likelihood of your partner reaching orgasm through intercourse.

 

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8. Intercourse Orgasms


Before You Get Started

Some women seem to have an incredibly difficult time reaching orgasm during intercourse; that is if they are able to orgasm at all. The most common reason for this is that they don’t know their own bodies. Society has had this brilliant effect of instilling into our minds from childhood that masturbation is sinful, wrong and dirty. Well, everyone is entitled to his or her own opinion, but all common sense dictates that this couldn’t be farther from the truth.

Thanks to this misconception, many people, especially women, have stopped themselves from learning their bodies, thereby reducing the chances of being able to fully enjoy sex. It is hard for many women to unlearn all that they have been taught, and they often feel that “touching themselves does not bring pleasure”. There is some truth behind that - they are not lying, they do not feel pleasure. However, this is not because there is no pleasure to be felt, just that they have been indirectly taught to not enjoy it. Getting beyond this will take time and patience, so never rush your partner.

Learning to please a woman who can’t orgasm on her own is extremely difficult, so a good idea would be to have her start to play with herself, and allow her to learn how her body reacts to different stimulus.

The last note has to do with your approach. Orgasms can’t be forced, and the more pressure you put on her to ***, the less likely it is to happen. Take things slow, learn techniques, experiment with them and find what works. If you start getting frustrated when you aren’t seeing results, it will show, and unfortunately make it even harder. Sex is supposed to be fun and enjoyable - as soon as you make it too serious, it takes away from the pleasure!

About Orgasms

There are two major types of orgasms a women can have …****oral and G spot, otherwise known as vaginal orgasms. When masturbating, women usually learn to get themselves off using their ****oris. There is nothing wrong with that, but it leaves the whole world of vaginal orgasms untapped. Many women are unable to climax during intercourse, as they aren’t familiar enough with the stimulation to enjoy it to its fullest extent. While you learn to read your partner’s body signs, it never hurts to ask a question, especially if you are trying new techniques.

Coitus, commonly known as vaginal sex, can be one of the clumsiest ways to stimulate a woman, if done without thought. While it does provide an atmosphere that can be highly arousing, emotionally satisfying and erotic, the degree of stimulation to the woman's ****oral area is nothing compared to masturbation or cunnilingus. One can incorporate manual stimulation to the ****oris during sex, but this is not very necessary if your woman has had vaginal orgasms in the past, and if you know how to hit the g spot correctly. No one wants to involve geometry into sex, but it is wise to know which positions stimulate the G spot the best. In order to help her achieve a vaginal orgasm, you need to make sure you are “hitting” the G spot with each stroke.

Many men fantasize about the myth of female ejaculation. Well, for starters, its no myth, all women are capable of ejaculating. The key is g spot stimulation.

Some Ideas on Getting Her There:

Relax and don't make her orgasm the purpose behind the encounter. The more of a goal you make it; the less likely it is that it will happen. Relax and enjoy yourselves, as that is the most important part.

The Grind

During Intercourse, you want to increase the pressure exerted on the woman's ****oris. This can be accomplished by rotating your hips just like when you are "grinding" on a dance floor. Try to really push against the front of her groin with the area just above the penis. Rocking back and forth or side to side is a really good way of getting started.

Rule of Thumb

With the woman sitting on top, the man should lie flat on his back, pelvic tilted upward, and stomach muscles tightened. You want to arch your hips upwards to improve the quality of “the Grind”; this can be achieved easily by putting a pillow under the man’s bum. He then should put his hand over the woman’s pubic region, and place his thumb on the woman’s ****oris. While the woman is riding her partner, he can simultaneously stimulate her ****oris.

T Position

With the woman lying on her back, the man should lie perpendicularly (i.e., at a right angle to her, thus forming the ‘T’), while straddling the woman’s far leg. Depending on the woman’s flexibility, this can be a great position for deep penetration, while exposing the ****oris for manual stimulation. This double stimulation is very gratifying and can often lead to the big “O” really quickly.

The Maximizer

The woman lies on her back, legs tightly held together. The man lies on top, or stands/kneels, in front. Instead of being directly in line with her, the man should be at a slight diagonal. Both of her legs should be over one shoulder, or on one side, of his body; he should begin penetration. This position is designed to maximize female ****oral stimulation and is easiest to perform with the man standing or kneeling (i.e. the woman should have her legs hanging off a counter, couch or bed).

 

[MightyMate]

Nice post paste. I think it may help a little people who dont know a jack about gettign girls to sex.
From my life. Anal fingering is making girls relly horny. When You are ****in her or playing put finger up the ass if You feel its right moment. SHes gonna love it!

 

[B-Lemond]

Originally posted by MightyMate
Nice post paste.

heh...heh...Thanks

But again, not all of it is copied and pasted. I made a few revisions and put in some completely new ideas on some sections.

 

[MightyMate]

I wanted to write 'mate' not 'paste'. But im so drunk that i messed it up somehow. Hahaa.

 

[Mr. Unique]

lots of good info here.

 

[B-Lemond]

9. Further Reading


Sir_Chancealot's Advanced sexual Techniques - Go to thread

Your Penis Didn't Come With a Manual. Here is one - Go to thread

Kuprin's Male Multiple Orgasm info - Go to thread

 

[ethnomethodologist]

Oh I do so love the grind.

It's saved me from coming off as a flacid dumbarse while drunk many a time. Grinding, the finger curl, the shocker, the tongue twister(do you remember?) are my techniques I run through my mind when very drunk and not able to call my little soldier to attention. LOL, I remember the joke of giving him the dishonourable discharge now:crackup:

Oh yeah... the grind...

Instead of a pillow and instilling sensations of romance into the woman...

Use your arm, either reach between her legs and cup her cl!t and do the spock while holding her shoulder. That, or grab her buttcheeks and use them as love handles.

If your in the right mood(yeah who isn't? this is a message to emos who cry when they have sex) masculine energy flows out of you. Practice massaging people, seriously, before grinding.

It's a serious way of being able to relax a girl and get her excited and tense at the same time.

 

[B-Lemond]

 

[hck332]

I think that wee need more tips on getting girl wet using words...

Dirty Talk is the key for becoming the sexual god... And it requires much skills.

 

[ethnomethodologist]

Originally posted by hck332
I think that wee need more tips on getting girl wet using words...

Dirty Talk is the key for becoming the sexual god... And it requires much skills.

See, that's the point hack, this is not a thread for ttalking dirty. Nobody's going to teach you that except for you, we can only show you what to practice.

Want some good dirty talking skills? Read this thread aloud in your sexiest voice as to what your going to do to the girl...

Otherwise, this is a thread on how to PLEASE a woman, not a thread on TEASING a woman.

 

[killbill]

good tip just dont know about the anal fingering, thats kinda sick

the rest is very good though so good job. you deserve 5 stars.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Otherwise, this is a thread on how to PLEASE a woman, not a thread on TEASING a woman.

Teasing is pleasing.

 

[Visceral]

It's too bad you can't do a lot of this stuff with your d!ck; it seems subservient - or just plain boring - when she's the only one getting off.

Still, this certainly explains why women like foreplay so much - it's more pleasurable for them than intercourse is. Sucks for us

 

[hck332]

Originally posted by Bible_Belt
Otherwise, this is a thread on how to PLEASE a woman, not a thread on TEASING a woman.

Teasing is pleasing.

Agreed