"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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So whenever I go deep into this girl, well...50% of the time anyway:

1.) She starts making that 'sex noise', you know the one you hear in porno

2.) It feels much tighter

3.) After 10 seconds of this she closes her legs, twists her body away and hence makes me pull out then no more sex.

The problem is with number 3. Why does she want to stop? I thought the 'sex noises' were a good thing for chicks, i mean, wtf?? wtf am i meant to do?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I don't get your question. I said she is the one who stops it, when this happens.
 

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She might be having an orgasm, especially with point number 2), the vagina wall does undergo short contractions when a woman's getting excited.
 

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he asked, how long were you having sex for

could it be she had an orgasm? women also get a funny tickly feeling after they have one, just like us
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Ah, well it can go on for any amount of time with the shallow penetration. But as soon as I switch to deeper stuff then it's like 10-20 seconds max until she's had enough.

I don't know if that is her orgasming or not, she dosn't make it clear really. I'd like to think so.
 

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Seriously guys, being mysterious and taking the lead and all that is great, but a bit of communication in the bedroom is a REALLY good thing. Ask her what's up?

My guess would be that she isn't having an orgasm, that's far too quick, and unlike guys girls can usually continue stimulation during/after orgasm so it wouldn't make sense for her to push you off. If anything I've been told to keep going because it feels extra good right after they ***, more sensative or something.

Perhaps you're actually hurting her? Intense pleasure and pain actually look and sound surprisingly similar. Especially if you say it sounds like porn, that sounds like a real possibility, as most of those girls are obviously not enjoying themselves.
 

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Intense pleasure and pain actually look and sound surprisingly similar
Indeed, that's the annoying bit

Yeah, I never do ask for some reason. I guess I've come to think that it is just the way she is, and that theres noting to do about it. But maybe I will ask next time.
 

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You could try letting her get on top so she can control the speed, roughness, and how deep she wants it. Could be various answers to this.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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