"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Sex is better in a relationship

whistler

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Agree? Disagree?

When I say relationship, I mean where you at least care for the girl.

For me this has always been the case. I'm not saying the emotional baggage that comes with an emotional connection with a girl is always fun. But the sex is definitely better.

If your goal is great sex, you might consider serial monogamy instead of rotating through a bunch of f*ck buddies.

(I realize a lot of guys on this site probably don't yet have the luxury of choosing between those paths... hang in there ;) )
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Meh, it's purely subjective. Personally I've had a few LTR's that lasted longer than a year, and a few one night stands. As far as the sex goes, to me it was just sex.

If the time was right, and the girl was really into it, then the sex was great!
 

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not always true.

theres great relationship sexO and bad relationship sexO
theres great fling sexO and bad fling sexO
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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whistler

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Thanks for your comments.

I mean generally though.

Obviously there are exceptions. I can think of a few occassions myself.

Keep your options open, sure...

But am I wrong here?

Spinning 20 plates is a measure of insurance if you're not likely to land anything you can rely on.

But if you can, why not conserve your energy and aim for (again, my opinion) more satisfying sex?
 

DrMetallica

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The best sex I had was with my girlfriend's best friend, but I agree that it wasn't as spiritual or satisfying as sex with my girlfriend, but it was definitely better.
 
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