"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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sex has nothing to do with love?

godjwood

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i think i have a fvcked up view of sex. to me, sex has nothing to do with caring for someoen. sex is something you do to get your nut off.
when i fall for a girl, i hardly have a desire to fvck her. and when i do, it doesnt make me feel intimate or closer. it just makes me feel like i am fvcking someone.
i feel like this is really messed up. does anyone else feel the same way?
i could love a girl and never have sex with her. i can **** someone and not give a **** about them.
maybe this is because i have had 4 different sex partners and 3 of them were one night stands and i didnt give a **** about them. i had sex with one girli had feelings for only two times. i have only fallen in love with one girl and i never had sex with her.
i feel like this is fvcked up and not how things should be.
tell me your opinion.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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sexy_kuta

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i kinda do feel the same with u...

i dunno i dont have an explainable answer for this,
 

Trapper

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if u love somebody, sex does not count for anymore... its just your emotional part talks...
 

skeeloo

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true i find kissing more thoughfull than sex. if i have sex with someone it dont mean jack to me. sex has nothing to do with love. and i realise i find it hard to fall for a girl.i havnt falling for a girl since i was 14.
 

BuckwildNYC

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O how right you are. True love is what your mom feels for you. This BS that people call love between a man and a woman is most of the time lust. Couples say I "love" you, but lets see your partner gain 150 pounds and lose their job and see how much love there still is. Men seem to undersand this better than women. We know sex is sex and love is love. Try explaining that to some chick when you are trying to get laid.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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DJinTraining06

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godjwood said:
i think i have a fvcked up view of sex. to me, sex has nothing to do with caring for someoen. sex is something you do to get your nut off.
when i fall for a girl, i hardly have a desire to fvck her. and when i do, it doesnt make me feel intimate or closer. it just makes me feel like i am fvcking someone.
i feel like this is really messed up. does anyone else feel the same way?
i could love a girl and never have sex with her. i can **** someone and not give a **** about them.
maybe this is because i have had 4 different sex partners and 3 of them were one night stands and i didnt give a **** about them. i had sex with one girli had feelings for only two times. i have only fallen in love with one girl and i never had sex with her.
i feel like this is fvcked up and not how things should be.
tell me your opinion.
It's not fvcked up at all. I loved me ex gf, but when i was having sex with her it was al about gettin off. For her it was about being close to me and stuff, and felt more in love with me and all. But for me, i loved her alot, but shed come over, id get horny and wanna bang her. Had nothin to do with lovign her at all. There were times when i really loved her at the beginning that i didnt even car ebout fvucking her. Then when the realtionship started to sour, it waslike sex was all we had and we did it all the time.
 

Bvbidd

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Love Me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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For some sex is an expression of intimacy for others it's a physical release for either tension or aggression. It is what it is.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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fertileTurtle

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Sex is like eating. Everyone needs it. Love is just giving someone what they need, so when you are in love you should give them good sex the same as you should give them medical attention if they were sick. You can have sex without love, but a women withholding sex from a man is doing something that is not good for him.:down:
 
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