"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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sex has nothing to do with love?

godjwood

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i think i have a fvcked up view of sex. to me, sex has nothing to do with caring for someoen. sex is something you do to get your nut off.
when i fall for a girl, i hardly have a desire to fvck her. and when i do, it doesnt make me feel intimate or closer. it just makes me feel like i am fvcking someone.
i feel like this is really messed up. does anyone else feel the same way?
i could love a girl and never have sex with her. i can **** someone and not give a **** about them.
maybe this is because i have had 4 different sex partners and 3 of them were one night stands and i didnt give a **** about them. i had sex with one girli had feelings for only two times. i have only fallen in love with one girl and i never had sex with her.
i feel like this is fvcked up and not how things should be.
tell me your opinion.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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sexy_kuta

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i kinda do feel the same with u...

i dunno i dont have an explainable answer for this,
 

Trapper

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if u love somebody, sex does not count for anymore... its just your emotional part talks...
 

skeeloo

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true i find kissing more thoughfull than sex. if i have sex with someone it dont mean jack to me. sex has nothing to do with love. and i realise i find it hard to fall for a girl.i havnt falling for a girl since i was 14.
 

BuckwildNYC

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O how right you are. True love is what your mom feels for you. This BS that people call love between a man and a woman is most of the time lust. Couples say I "love" you, but lets see your partner gain 150 pounds and lose their job and see how much love there still is. Men seem to undersand this better than women. We know sex is sex and love is love. Try explaining that to some chick when you are trying to get laid.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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DJinTraining06

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godjwood said:
i think i have a fvcked up view of sex. to me, sex has nothing to do with caring for someoen. sex is something you do to get your nut off.
when i fall for a girl, i hardly have a desire to fvck her. and when i do, it doesnt make me feel intimate or closer. it just makes me feel like i am fvcking someone.
i feel like this is really messed up. does anyone else feel the same way?
i could love a girl and never have sex with her. i can **** someone and not give a **** about them.
maybe this is because i have had 4 different sex partners and 3 of them were one night stands and i didnt give a **** about them. i had sex with one girli had feelings for only two times. i have only fallen in love with one girl and i never had sex with her.
i feel like this is fvcked up and not how things should be.
tell me your opinion.
It's not fvcked up at all. I loved me ex gf, but when i was having sex with her it was al about gettin off. For her it was about being close to me and stuff, and felt more in love with me and all. But for me, i loved her alot, but shed come over, id get horny and wanna bang her. Had nothin to do with lovign her at all. There were times when i really loved her at the beginning that i didnt even car ebout fvucking her. Then when the realtionship started to sour, it waslike sex was all we had and we did it all the time.
 

Bvbidd

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Love Me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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For some sex is an expression of intimacy for others it's a physical release for either tension or aggression. It is what it is.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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fertileTurtle

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Sex is like eating. Everyone needs it. Love is just giving someone what they need, so when you are in love you should give them good sex the same as you should give them medical attention if they were sick. You can have sex without love, but a women withholding sex from a man is doing something that is not good for him.:down:
 
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