"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Sex Drive

Noob_Lee

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Hi,

I don't seem to have any sex drive at all. When a girl seems to like me I just don't seem to want to go out with her that much if you get me.

I don't seem to want to make the effort to get girls.

How can a solve this seriously it is starting to worry me?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Analyzeit

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First make sure that your not gay or one of those guys that just isn't interested in sex, once we've sorted that out i'm going to tell you that theres nothing wrong with you.

Okay so i'm just going to suggest that you haven't had sex before? If you have then don't read this next advice. You should really just force yourself a little bit of effort and have sex, that might give you your drive back. I didn't bother with girls too for awhile and i'm actually jealous with the guys that don't.

i was asking a friend of mine (Ripped as muscles, good looking guy) why he doesn't bother and he just said "I can't be bothered with all their ****" and i just said "fair enough" and you guys know exactly what **** i'm talking about.

Just force yourself to put some effort in and if you don't enjoy it, don't bother with them, your in highschool aren't you? Girls should not be the most important thing in your life anyway, probably not even in the top 5 most important things
 

Smack

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Noob_Lee said:
Hi,

I don't seem to have any sex drive at all. When a girl seems to like me I just don't seem to want to go out with her that much if you get me.

I don't seem to want to make the effort to get girls.

How can a solve this seriously it is starting to worry me?
You might be asexual. Or a very late developer. How old are you?
 

Noob_Lee

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I'm 17 and its not wat you think mate. I find the girls extremelyl attractive and porn etc however don't seem to have the urge to go out with them and approach etc.
 

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Which is exactly why I think you're asexual.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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hey i actually had the same problem. I didnt lose my virginity until i was 17 not because i couldnt get a girl to have sex with me but mostly because i just wasnt interested in it. Finally it took a girl to basically force herself on me and i had sex with her. It was very awkward but ever since then i have never had the "lack of drive" problem again. I think my lack of sex drive wasn't really a sexual thing but an emotional one... subconsciously i was nervous about having sex and so i didnt have any drive. Like you, I had no problems watching porn.

So my advice: find a girl who you think is at least relativley attractive and just suck it up and bang her. If you're like me that will be the end of your problems.
 
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