"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Sex Drive

Noob_Lee

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Hi,

I don't seem to have any sex drive at all. When a girl seems to like me I just don't seem to want to go out with her that much if you get me.

I don't seem to want to make the effort to get girls.

How can a solve this seriously it is starting to worry me?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Analyzeit

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First make sure that your not gay or one of those guys that just isn't interested in sex, once we've sorted that out i'm going to tell you that theres nothing wrong with you.

Okay so i'm just going to suggest that you haven't had sex before? If you have then don't read this next advice. You should really just force yourself a little bit of effort and have sex, that might give you your drive back. I didn't bother with girls too for awhile and i'm actually jealous with the guys that don't.

i was asking a friend of mine (Ripped as muscles, good looking guy) why he doesn't bother and he just said "I can't be bothered with all their ****" and i just said "fair enough" and you guys know exactly what **** i'm talking about.

Just force yourself to put some effort in and if you don't enjoy it, don't bother with them, your in highschool aren't you? Girls should not be the most important thing in your life anyway, probably not even in the top 5 most important things
 

Smack

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Noob_Lee said:
Hi,

I don't seem to have any sex drive at all. When a girl seems to like me I just don't seem to want to go out with her that much if you get me.

I don't seem to want to make the effort to get girls.

How can a solve this seriously it is starting to worry me?
You might be asexual. Or a very late developer. How old are you?
 

Noob_Lee

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I'm 17 and its not wat you think mate. I find the girls extremelyl attractive and porn etc however don't seem to have the urge to go out with them and approach etc.
 

Smack

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Which is exactly why I think you're asexual.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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wd40

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hey i actually had the same problem. I didnt lose my virginity until i was 17 not because i couldnt get a girl to have sex with me but mostly because i just wasnt interested in it. Finally it took a girl to basically force herself on me and i had sex with her. It was very awkward but ever since then i have never had the "lack of drive" problem again. I think my lack of sex drive wasn't really a sexual thing but an emotional one... subconsciously i was nervous about having sex and so i didnt have any drive. Like you, I had no problems watching porn.

So my advice: find a girl who you think is at least relativley attractive and just suck it up and bang her. If you're like me that will be the end of your problems.
 
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