"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Sex drive is crazy

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Rubato

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Seriously. I don't know what to do about this. I am blowing out sets and my plates because I'm getting too trigger happy. I'm texting this one girl right now and I can already tell you, I'm probably going to blow it with her (figuratively) because my sex drive is so strong.

How can I channel this in to something that isn't going to sabotage me? In my current state, my desire is just too strong. I don't want to get to know these girls, I really have no interest in it. Except Amanda, the girl I wrote about today in my journal. I'm starting to actually like her.

But aside from that, I can't hardly even focus on one girl because because I'm so sexually frustrated I get distracted every time I see anything at all I would consider sex worthy. It's this whole desire thing Pook talked about. Well, my desire is overflowing! I think I've had some sort of testosterone surge from this lifting and diet schedule I'm on. I've gained over 10 pounds in 5 weeks or so, and it's clean weight. My fat percentage has gone down! But I've never seriously trained hard either, so maybe that's why

Who cares?????

All I can freakin think about is sex. I feel like a sex crazed 16 year old. I no longer very myself as average or a chump, but I'm definitely frustrated right now.

What in the world can I do about this?

EDIT: I don't mean to say I want to focus on one girl at a time EXCLUSIVELY. I mean, I can't even focus on the plates I have when I'm with them. I see a girl and think "Oh, I'd like to hit that". And another and think the same thing. I feel like my entire sexual energy is completely diffused, and thus, not useful. I'd rather be a river than a flood.
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Htienvu

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I wish my sex drive is like yours dude... I work out, my gf has a hot body and a nice face, but I struggle to do it twice a night. Learn to control your sex drive, channel it into sexual state when you're talking to the girl. I guess just control and use it when needed.
 

loveshogun

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How many non-gym physical activities do you do?

The more free-time I have, the more I start realizing "man, I'm a h*rny motherf*cker." And then I accidentally lay a barista, and I can never go back to my favorite coffee place.

So, long-in-short, be busy with non-gym physical activities, because even though the gym is good for your body, you should try to engage your mind, too. Play some sports, get into dance, or do something that uses both your mind and your body.
 

azanon

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Rubato said:
But aside from that, I can't hardly even focus on one girl because because I'm so sexually frustrated I get distracted every time I see anything at all I would consider sex worthy.
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All I can freakin think about is sex. I feel like a sex crazed 16 year old. I no longer very myself as average or a chump, but I'm definitely frustrated right now.

What in the world can I do about this?
Why are you trying to "focus on one girl" at 24? You basically just explained that you are a normal male in your early 20s, and you're trying hard to get a case of oneitis? You do realize that at this forum, we promote spinning plates, and being overly sexual like you describe yourself, right?

All I'd caution you about is to make sure you don't do anything stupid because of your sex drive, such as getting a girl pregnant without protection.
 

marmel75

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Your testosterone levels are likely pretty high...you could maximize this by going to the gym because it would likely lead to some good muscle gains pretty quickly, especially if you don't work out that much...in males, the same hormone is responsible for both of these(testosterone)

That being said, I know what you mean. I am a gym rat and take Test boosters and my levels are probably off the chart somewhere...we have sex sometimes 3 or 4 times a day and its still not enough...I am literally ready to go again 2 minutes after fvcking for an hour and a half straight...I think that is why I am looking for other plates although I am officially(as in legally) taken...feels sh*tty of me to do, but my hormones are getting the best of me...
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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