"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Sex And Fighting

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I don't know if any of you guys have experienced this, but I've begun to notice when I'm in a relationship that the girl and I never really fight until after the first time we have sex. I know it's not me, I'm a very calm person and it takes a great deal to make me angry. I swear it happens every time. Does anyone have an explaination for this?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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tryin 2 play

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No explanation...but this seems to be true with me too. I have always heard "sex ruins everything." "Or sex makes everything more complicated" i dunn osomehting like that.

maybe a little truth to it?
 

KillaCam

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It's like a switch.

Sex usually dignifies the peak of the "Honeymoon period" in a relationship, I stress the word usually, every situation is different.

Once you peak, and you get over that period, you become more settled and open to criticising your spouse. Criticism sometimes leads to conflict.

Notice when you've just nabbed this girl, you're in your early stages, sometimes you may tend to bite your tongue and hold back on negativity? Once that gets thrown out the window, and you're more comfortable with each other, fighting becomes a natural way of venting.

It's healthy to have the right kinds of conflict, anything to stop people from repressing negative emotions has got to be good.

That's just one explination anyway, plenty of factors could be the cause.
 
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