When around your girl or going out with her how should you act (besides confident) in order to keep her IL high and also avoid the friend zone? Also lets say you're walking by her and assume you don't notice her. She smiles and calls your name in a playful manner to recieve your attention (Even in front of her friends). Should that indicate anything good for me? There seems to be alot of touching, hugging, joking etc. going on between us but I fear I may have her in the friend zone. I asked her out already but I'm just waiting for her reply. I'll just stay on the safe side and assume that she would refuse. Thanks for the help.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Several Questions.
- Thread starter Adrian
- Start date
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Assume nothing....
Be confident, if she says yes it does not matter....
If she says, no... its still doesn't matter
If you are worried about being in the friendship zone, its probably because you are for right now. Things to ask yourself, is does she do this playful kitten routine with other guys? How easy is it for her to get time from you to hang out? Does she make all the moves and I do nothing to signal back to her? Am I shy when I talk to her? All these questions have obvious answers, and you're the only one who can answer them.
Some will tell you that the friendship zone is the end of the road. I say not always, there are no rules in the game of love. Do not kid yourself this is a game in some ways, one we all like to play, otherwise their would be no humans to populate the earth. My best advice to you is to become a challenge:
Your time is valuable and you have a life you can't hang out with her all the time. Make her work to get your time and realize that you will not always be there. Let her see you openly and lavishly flirt with other girls, do what she does to you, expect with another girl. If you start dating, and get to a third date wait till a few days before and cancel it saying something has come up but you would like to reschedule. While she is sitting on her butt, watching tv and eating ben and jerry's she'll be thinking on the oppurtunites she missed out on earlier, and will jump at the next chance to be with you. It's worked for me and I'm just your average guy. Best of luck and protect your heart.
-Grey Fox
Be confident, if she says yes it does not matter....
If she says, no... its still doesn't matter
If you are worried about being in the friendship zone, its probably because you are for right now. Things to ask yourself, is does she do this playful kitten routine with other guys? How easy is it for her to get time from you to hang out? Does she make all the moves and I do nothing to signal back to her? Am I shy when I talk to her? All these questions have obvious answers, and you're the only one who can answer them.
Some will tell you that the friendship zone is the end of the road. I say not always, there are no rules in the game of love. Do not kid yourself this is a game in some ways, one we all like to play, otherwise their would be no humans to populate the earth. My best advice to you is to become a challenge:
Your time is valuable and you have a life you can't hang out with her all the time. Make her work to get your time and realize that you will not always be there. Let her see you openly and lavishly flirt with other girls, do what she does to you, expect with another girl. If you start dating, and get to a third date wait till a few days before and cancel it saying something has come up but you would like to reschedule. While she is sitting on her butt, watching tv and eating ben and jerry's she'll be thinking on the oppurtunites she missed out on earlier, and will jump at the next chance to be with you. It's worked for me and I'm just your average guy. Best of luck and protect your heart.
-Grey Fox
About the call.
She's testing you, or not very interested. You have to become more of a challenge, don't get hard hearted around her but your presence with her must be enjoyable but fleeting. You're new here so don't worry about failing, you'll learn more from your failures than successes.
-Grey Fox
She's testing you, or not very interested. You have to become more of a challenge, don't get hard hearted around her but your presence with her must be enjoyable but fleeting. You're new here so don't worry about failing, you'll learn more from your failures than successes.
-Grey Fox
You're going to have to give a little bit more details about this quote.
As far as I'm concerned, if she wanted to go out with you, she would've said YES.
Another sign of "Low Interest."
It's not looking good.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
PuertoRican_Lover
Banned
She has low interest - do not call her or bring it up again to her. Make a move on another girl - practice!
No need to apologize - it's only a question.
No need to apologize - it's only a question.