When around your girl or going out with her how should you act (besides confident) in order to keep her IL high and also avoid the friend zone? Also lets say you're walking by her and assume you don't notice her. She smiles and calls your name in a playful manner to recieve your attention (Even in front of her friends). Should that indicate anything good for me? There seems to be alot of touching, hugging, joking etc. going on between us but I fear I may have her in the friend zone. I asked her out already but I'm just waiting for her reply. I'll just stay on the safe side and assume that she would refuse. Thanks for the help.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Several Questions.
- Thread starter Adrian
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Assume nothing....
Be confident, if she says yes it does not matter....
If she says, no... its still doesn't matter
If you are worried about being in the friendship zone, its probably because you are for right now. Things to ask yourself, is does she do this playful kitten routine with other guys? How easy is it for her to get time from you to hang out? Does she make all the moves and I do nothing to signal back to her? Am I shy when I talk to her? All these questions have obvious answers, and you're the only one who can answer them.
Some will tell you that the friendship zone is the end of the road. I say not always, there are no rules in the game of love. Do not kid yourself this is a game in some ways, one we all like to play, otherwise their would be no humans to populate the earth. My best advice to you is to become a challenge:
Your time is valuable and you have a life you can't hang out with her all the time. Make her work to get your time and realize that you will not always be there. Let her see you openly and lavishly flirt with other girls, do what she does to you, expect with another girl. If you start dating, and get to a third date wait till a few days before and cancel it saying something has come up but you would like to reschedule. While she is sitting on her butt, watching tv and eating ben and jerry's she'll be thinking on the oppurtunites she missed out on earlier, and will jump at the next chance to be with you. It's worked for me and I'm just your average guy. Best of luck and protect your heart.
-Grey Fox
Be confident, if she says yes it does not matter....
If she says, no... its still doesn't matter
If you are worried about being in the friendship zone, its probably because you are for right now. Things to ask yourself, is does she do this playful kitten routine with other guys? How easy is it for her to get time from you to hang out? Does she make all the moves and I do nothing to signal back to her? Am I shy when I talk to her? All these questions have obvious answers, and you're the only one who can answer them.
Some will tell you that the friendship zone is the end of the road. I say not always, there are no rules in the game of love. Do not kid yourself this is a game in some ways, one we all like to play, otherwise their would be no humans to populate the earth. My best advice to you is to become a challenge:
Your time is valuable and you have a life you can't hang out with her all the time. Make her work to get your time and realize that you will not always be there. Let her see you openly and lavishly flirt with other girls, do what she does to you, expect with another girl. If you start dating, and get to a third date wait till a few days before and cancel it saying something has come up but you would like to reschedule. While she is sitting on her butt, watching tv and eating ben and jerry's she'll be thinking on the oppurtunites she missed out on earlier, and will jump at the next chance to be with you. It's worked for me and I'm just your average guy. Best of luck and protect your heart.
-Grey Fox
About the call.
She's testing you, or not very interested. You have to become more of a challenge, don't get hard hearted around her but your presence with her must be enjoyable but fleeting. You're new here so don't worry about failing, you'll learn more from your failures than successes.
-Grey Fox
She's testing you, or not very interested. You have to become more of a challenge, don't get hard hearted around her but your presence with her must be enjoyable but fleeting. You're new here so don't worry about failing, you'll learn more from your failures than successes.
-Grey Fox
You're going to have to give a little bit more details about this quote.
As far as I'm concerned, if she wanted to go out with you, she would've said YES.
Another sign of "Low Interest."
It's not looking good.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
PuertoRican_Lover
Banned
She has low interest - do not call her or bring it up again to her. Make a move on another girl - practice!
No need to apologize - it's only a question.
No need to apologize - it's only a question.