When around your girl or going out with her how should you act (besides confident) in order to keep her IL high and also avoid the friend zone? Also lets say you're walking by her and assume you don't notice her. She smiles and calls your name in a playful manner to recieve your attention (Even in front of her friends). Should that indicate anything good for me? There seems to be alot of touching, hugging, joking etc. going on between us but I fear I may have her in the friend zone. I asked her out already but I'm just waiting for her reply. I'll just stay on the safe side and assume that she would refuse. Thanks for the help.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Several Questions.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Assume nothing....
Be confident, if she says yes it does not matter....
If she says, no... its still doesn't matter
If you are worried about being in the friendship zone, its probably because you are for right now. Things to ask yourself, is does she do this playful kitten routine with other guys? How easy is it for her to get time from you to hang out? Does she make all the moves and I do nothing to signal back to her? Am I shy when I talk to her? All these questions have obvious answers, and you're the only one who can answer them.
Some will tell you that the friendship zone is the end of the road. I say not always, there are no rules in the game of love. Do not kid yourself this is a game in some ways, one we all like to play, otherwise their would be no humans to populate the earth. My best advice to you is to become a challenge:
Your time is valuable and you have a life you can't hang out with her all the time. Make her work to get your time and realize that you will not always be there. Let her see you openly and lavishly flirt with other girls, do what she does to you, expect with another girl. If you start dating, and get to a third date wait till a few days before and cancel it saying something has come up but you would like to reschedule. While she is sitting on her butt, watching tv and eating ben and jerry's she'll be thinking on the oppurtunites she missed out on earlier, and will jump at the next chance to be with you. It's worked for me and I'm just your average guy. Best of luck and protect your heart.
-Grey Fox
Be confident, if she says yes it does not matter....
If she says, no... its still doesn't matter
If you are worried about being in the friendship zone, its probably because you are for right now. Things to ask yourself, is does she do this playful kitten routine with other guys? How easy is it for her to get time from you to hang out? Does she make all the moves and I do nothing to signal back to her? Am I shy when I talk to her? All these questions have obvious answers, and you're the only one who can answer them.
Some will tell you that the friendship zone is the end of the road. I say not always, there are no rules in the game of love. Do not kid yourself this is a game in some ways, one we all like to play, otherwise their would be no humans to populate the earth. My best advice to you is to become a challenge:
Your time is valuable and you have a life you can't hang out with her all the time. Make her work to get your time and realize that you will not always be there. Let her see you openly and lavishly flirt with other girls, do what she does to you, expect with another girl. If you start dating, and get to a third date wait till a few days before and cancel it saying something has come up but you would like to reschedule. While she is sitting on her butt, watching tv and eating ben and jerry's she'll be thinking on the oppurtunites she missed out on earlier, and will jump at the next chance to be with you. It's worked for me and I'm just your average guy. Best of luck and protect your heart.
-Grey Fox
About the call.
She's testing you, or not very interested. You have to become more of a challenge, don't get hard hearted around her but your presence with her must be enjoyable but fleeting. You're new here so don't worry about failing, you'll learn more from your failures than successes.
-Grey Fox
She's testing you, or not very interested. You have to become more of a challenge, don't get hard hearted around her but your presence with her must be enjoyable but fleeting. You're new here so don't worry about failing, you'll learn more from your failures than successes.
-Grey Fox
You're going to have to give a little bit more details about this quote.
As far as I'm concerned, if she wanted to go out with you, she would've said YES.
Another sign of "Low Interest."
It's not looking good.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
PuertoRican_Lover
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She has low interest - do not call her or bring it up again to her. Make a move on another girl - practice!
No need to apologize - it's only a question.
No need to apologize - it's only a question.