"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Setup with a girl and got another girls number

simple_wish

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I was setup by a friend this past weekend. We were to meet with a group of my and her friends.

She was totally opposite to me and I was not interested in her so I excused myself and sat down with another girl on the patio who happened to be sitting by herself.

The girl was friendly and we had a Great conversation (booze sure get's the edge off) and as I was to make my exit she said that we should get together. So she gave me her phone number...SCORE!

But being really busy with work I didn't call her until 3 days after we met I had no intentions calling her the next day. I got her VM and left her a message saying I was the guy she met on saturday and to give me a call....

She hasn't called..should I persue this girl? She's smokin hot it's just what the Dr ordered for me to get back on track?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Good_ol_boy

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"She hasn't called..should I persue this girl?"

Uh, I don't know. Do you want to??
If not, don't bother.
 

simple_wish

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True..

Maybe one call and then it's done. No love gained none lost but i'm looking to build up more female friends as I cut most of them off when the ex and I split.
 

Ricky

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Don't expect a girl to call initially.

This is why I hate when you dont get a girl on the phone the first time.

I'd try again, but don't leave a message if you don't get her on the phone.
 

Aztec

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Try calling again few days after your initial call because things may happened why she hasn't or didn't call back. Not all non-return calls are rejections. Give her the benefit of the doubt. Nexting her after the first non-return call is not necessary.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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simple_wish

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Thanks guys.

She ended up calling me last night and asked to meet up. I already had plans for the evening so I told her we'd have to reschedule.

We'll see how it goes.
 
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