"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Originally posted by Master Homer
Read up on "existentialism"; you’ll probably study it senior year in English class for awhile anyways. Basically it states that life sucks and then you die, so stop looking for purpose and just live.
the point isn't for you to find your purpose, it's to think about what life is with all it's systems of control, for example fear.

Isn't that essentially what everyone is afraid of? Not having purpose and being alone and unhappy?!!?!?

Yeah, I'm gonna die. Perhaps. Perhaps not. Chances are I will, but I do not much believe in chance. And so what? I'm supposed to just crawl up in my corner and wait for death? NO!

I have been chosen to enjoy a unique experience called living. Part of that experience is attempting to understand this whole "life" ordeal or more importantly to understand what it is for me. As I understand more and more about it (By understand I mean create my own image of the world) the more I enjoy this experience. So take your craptacular advice about "You'
re gonna die so stop wasting your time" and shove it up your ass.
You know what? I search my purpose for myself . Not my "purpose" in this world. I am fully dedicated to myself. and you know what else? "Life sucks!"- You get out of life what you put into it.

Lik
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Interesting conversation. Now I do my best to keep things simple. i don't pretend to know all the answers but how i feel about life works for me. I have no complicated societal oppinions because i just end up tying myself in knots and this is more effective anyway. Try looking at it from this way:

What you do, doesn't matter. AT ALL. You can be depressed your entire life and you will die, you can be happy your whole life, and you die, you can become world famous, but you still die. We're not better then any one, our fate is the same as every other thing in this world, we die. There are alot of people out there, ALOT of people. Look out in to the distance, there are 100's of people doing the exact same thing as you, there are thousands of people being rejected, there are thousands of people starving, there are thousands of people going to the gym, there are thousands of people procrastinating. So why is your decision so important? Your decision's arent important because 1) Because it wont differenciate you from anyone else and 2) Your gonna die anyway.
 

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Originally posted by LikRetsam

You know what? I search my purpose for myself . Not my "purpose" in this world. I am fully dedicated to myself. and you know what else? "Life sucks!"- You get out of life what you put into it.

Lik
Thanks for elaborating on existentialism. :D
 

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In the big picture, you're right. My decisions will not matter. I will one day die. But until that one fateful day, every decision I will ever make will fundamentally effect the most important world to my eyes: MY world.

Selfish? perhaps. I'm not taking things too far in the DJ ideas that you have to create your own world and women need to prove their worth to get in it. It is just a reality. Something we must all admit. We all live in our little worlds and that is the most important thing to us: our own world.
And so, if we look at it that way, through the eyes of reality, then when we talk about anything that affects us, our decisions will make all the difference.

Lik
 

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Originally posted by Master Homer
Thanks for elaborating on existentialism. :D
No problem ;-)
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Existentialism brings a lot of freedom but also a lot of responsibility.
Personally, I do not agree entirely, or should I say, I do not exactly disagree with existentialism.

Maybe because I'm still attached to finding "meanings" for the things that happen in my life, but free will is the greatest philosophical mistery. It's like marrying the Chaos Theory with Quantum Mechanics :)

And having Determinism as the man to celebrate the union.

And you asked who I am....
" I am a wandering stranger... just trying to find some answers..."

Maybe the structure of my writings makes me come out as an arrogant, bitter, mystical man.

Maybe that's who I am... But I do not wish bad to anyone... I work hard everyday to serve more than to be served... to help more than to be helped...

I just want to instigate everyone's minds... make people use their brains... feel lost, confused... that's when we learn... if you think of ideals like muscles... when I try to break your conceptions of life, love, right or wrong, I'm honestly hoping that they come back stronger than ever, whether I agree with them or not.

I question myself way too often... you wouldn't want to be on my shoes...
I think that this place is full of intelligent people.... like I use to say, we're the last "smart" generation... the kids that came after us are more and more precocious and peer pressure-driven...

The future of the world is in OUR hands... yet most of us are only worried about pu$$y and $$$.

Yet I still believe...naively, but I do believe...that we're gonna pull through... and have a modern renascensse...

Our critique began as all critiques begin, with doubt. Doubt became our narrative. Ours was a quest for a new story: our own. And we grasped towards this new history driven by the suspicion that ordinary language couldn't tell it. Our past appeared frozen in the distance, and our every gesture and accent signified the negation of the Old World, and the reach for a new one. The way we lived created a new situation, one of exuberance and friendship; That of a subversive micro-society in the heart of a society which ignored it. Art was not the goal, but the occasion and the method for locating our specific rhythm and varied possibilities of our time. The discovery of a true communication was what it was about, or at least the quest for such a communication: the adventure of finding it and losing it. We, the unappeased, the unaccepting, continued looking, filling in the silences with our own wishes, fears, and fantasies, driven forward by the fact that no matter how empty the world seemed, no matter how degraded and used up the world appeared to us, we knew that anything was still possible, and, given the right circumstances, a new world was just as likely as an old one.
from the movie Waking Life
 

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Originally posted by Dimebag_Darrell
Let me add another one....

EAT P*SSY AND LISTEN TO TOOL!!!!!!!!!!(no seriously, listen to Tool, the music teaches you to go out and THINK FOR YOURSELF!!)
Best advice I've read in weeks. Bible material.

Good job.
 

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I believe in free will, but I believe some people have more free will then others, and I believe there is no one with 100% free will; we are all influenced by something. Free will is like muscles, you have to train free will in order for it to be stronger.
 

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Originally posted by Smooth as Anything
Best advice I've read in weeks. Bible material.

Good job.
Every time I read one of your replies to a post I laugh my ass off.
 
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