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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

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setting up a friend-too much-drama and secret

joe45

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ok i set up my friend i knew for a while now. hes always phoning me or emailing me on "hows the woman" or you find any girls yet. hook me up. he would talk about my job and this and that, but his main reason he phone call me was-do you have any hook ups. you can just tell by his tone of voice.
so i did right with this xchange japanese student i met at the library. i didn't like her and didn't felt i could date her or she was interested in me.
i introduce him to my friend. he went out with her and like her, but the thing is he would tell me how he doesn't like Yumi since she is too short, or how her friend named Eriko is better looking and he doesn;t want me to tell Yumi this. if Yumi wasn't around he would go for Eriko...
i told him i said i won't and i don't.

the thing with him is then he gets overly parnoid and cautious. he keep on harassing me to not tell Yumi this and that and what he said. i told him i won't. he even said if he finds out from Yumi since he talks to her. he would burn my house or......etc break my neck. i am not sure why this guy is so overly parnoid and scared as to why., i even ask him and he said b/c i don't now how to word things and i just say it as it is. well if you told me not to say it i won't say it lol duh

the funny this is i have set him up 4x's and not once has he set me up. i don't think he ever will though too.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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joe45 said:
ok i set up my friend i knew for a while now. hes always phoning me or emailing me on "hows the woman" or you find any girls yet. hook me up. he would talk about my job and this and that, but his main reason he phone call me was-do you have any hook ups. you can just tell by his tone of voice.
so i did right with this xchange japanese student i met at the library. i didn't like her and didn't felt i could date her or she was interested in me.
i introduce him to my friend. he went out with her and like her, but the thing is he would tell me how he doesn't like Yumi since she is too short, or how her friend named Eriko is better looking and he doesn;t want me to tell Yumi this. if Yumi wasn't around he would go for Eriko...
i told him i said i won't and i don't.

the thing with him is then he gets overly parnoid and cautious. he keep on harassing me to not tell Yumi this and that and what he said. i told him i won't. he even said if he finds out from Yumi since he talks to her. he would burn my house or......etc break my neck. i am not sure why this guy is so overly parnoid and scared as to why., i even ask him and he said b/c i don't now how to word things and i just say it as it is. well if you told me not to say it i won't say it lol duh

the funny this is i have set him up 4x's and not once has he set me up. i don't think he ever will though too.
Mate, stop letting him use you as a tool to get girls. Next time he harasses you, just call him out on his bull**** and tell him. Don't stand for his ****, what kind of friend threatens to break your neck or burn down your house for something you haven't done. If he does it again, tell him to **** off.
 

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init he should be happy that he has a friend like u to set him up with women, what an ungrateful prick
 

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I don't think he ever will set you up either, he seems greedy and would probably just keep any woman he meets for himself.
 

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scribblec said:
init he should be happy that he has a friend like u to set him up with women, what an ungrateful prick

hehe but he also says he also helps me like since i have no car, and he always using his car to drive us me and my other friend to snowshoeing, or to the gym., across the border-we are in canada...etc which i don;t even really care to go-since i been before and didn;t really enjoy it , but for some reason he always insiist i go.
he say well how about when i help you with when we drive you around with my car and my gas, its not likle i am using you with having you set me up with woman. at the same time i donl;t really care to go with him anyways.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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