Setting things straight

[disfunktional]

Hey,

When you just want a casual relationship with a girl, nothing serious, do you make this clear verbally off your own back? I tend not to talk about it unless they bring it up (which doesn't seem to happen in my experience), but the last 3 girls I've been with have kind of assumed that we are "going out" even when I haven't verbally given them any hint of it. So when I eventually break off contact they treat it as if we are spliting up, when in my view there is nothing to split up from.

I do tend to be quite affectionate even if I just want the relationship to be casual, I tend to "cuddle up" a lot and don't really act differently to being in a serious relationship, apart from having less contact and being more aloof. Maybe this gives them the impression?

df

 

[Mind_Body_Soul]

If you don't want the relationship to progress to the next level:

Don't call more than once a week.
Make sure she knows you are dating other people.
Don't talk about the future.

OR

After you bang her stop talking to her.

 

[armadon]

Hey,

When you just want a casual relationship with a girl, nothing serious, do you make this clear verbally off your own back? I tend not to talk about it unless they bring it up (which doesn't seem to happen in my experience), but the last 3 girls I've been with have kind of assumed that we are "going out" even when I haven't verbally given them any hint of it. So when I eventually break off contact they treat it as if we are spliting up, when in my view there is nothing to split up from.

I do tend to be quite affectionate even if I just want the relationship to be casual, I tend to "cuddle up" a lot and don't really act differently to being in a serious relationship, apart from having less contact and being more aloof. Maybe this gives them the impression?

df

Do you "cuddle up" with dudes? Think about it.

 

[realsmoothie]

I don't have an answer but I have the same problem. I'm pretty affectionate as well and I agree that it does give them the impression that I'm into a long-term relationship.

It doesn't mean that. It's true that I'll only cuddle with a girl I care about, but I don't have to care about her THAT much, if you know what I mean.

 

[disfunktional]

Do you "cuddle up" with dudes? Think about it.

No, but then I don't want to fvck dudes either. I don't really understand your reply.

df

 

[Carpy]

Hey,

When you just want a casual relationship with a girl, nothing serious, do you make this clear verbally off your own back? I tend not to talk about it unless they bring it up (which doesn't seem to happen in my experience), but the last 3 girls I've been with have kind of assumed that we are "going out" even when I haven't verbally given them any hint of it. So when I eventually break off contact they treat it as if we are spliting up, when in my view there is nothing to split up from.

I do tend to be quite affectionate even if I just want the relationship to be casual, I tend to "cuddle up" a lot and don't really act differently to being in a serious relationship, apart from having less contact and being more aloof. Maybe this gives them the impression?

df

That cuddling up thing gives them the impression you care in a hurry. Most guys dont do that, they arent used to it, so they think you must really really like them. Myself, i love playing with a girls body and "cuddling up" as you put it. I also know that by doing those things, i'll be getting laid quickly. Its got me into more than one conversation, way early into dating a girl, that stemmed from them thinking how much i must really like them because i "cuddle up". If that makes sense