"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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disfunktional

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Hey,

When you just want a casual relationship with a girl, nothing serious, do you make this clear verbally off your own back? I tend not to talk about it unless they bring it up (which doesn't seem to happen in my experience), but the last 3 girls I've been with have kind of assumed that we are "going out" even when I haven't verbally given them any hint of it. So when I eventually break off contact they treat it as if we are spliting up, when in my view there is nothing to split up from.

I do tend to be quite affectionate even if I just want the relationship to be casual, I tend to "cuddle up" a lot and don't really act differently to being in a serious relationship, apart from having less contact and being more aloof. Maybe this gives them the impression?

df
 

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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Mind_Body_Soul

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If you don't want the relationship to progress to the next level:

Don't call more than once a week.
Make sure she knows you are dating other people.
Don't talk about the future.

OR

After you bang her stop talking to her.
 

armadon

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disfunktional said:
Hey,

When you just want a casual relationship with a girl, nothing serious, do you make this clear verbally off your own back? I tend not to talk about it unless they bring it up (which doesn't seem to happen in my experience), but the last 3 girls I've been with have kind of assumed that we are "going out" even when I haven't verbally given them any hint of it. So when I eventually break off contact they treat it as if we are spliting up, when in my view there is nothing to split up from.

I do tend to be quite affectionate even if I just want the relationship to be casual, I tend to "cuddle up" a lot and don't really act differently to being in a serious relationship, apart from having less contact and being more aloof. Maybe this gives them the impression?

df
Do you "cuddle up" with dudes? Think about it.
 

realsmoothie

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I don't have an answer but I have the same problem. I'm pretty affectionate as well and I agree that it does give them the impression that I'm into a long-term relationship.

It doesn't mean that. It's true that I'll only cuddle with a girl I care about, but I don't have to care about her THAT much, if you know what I mean.
 

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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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disfunktional said:
Hey,

When you just want a casual relationship with a girl, nothing serious, do you make this clear verbally off your own back? I tend not to talk about it unless they bring it up (which doesn't seem to happen in my experience), but the last 3 girls I've been with have kind of assumed that we are "going out" even when I haven't verbally given them any hint of it. So when I eventually break off contact they treat it as if we are spliting up, when in my view there is nothing to split up from.

I do tend to be quite affectionate even if I just want the relationship to be casual, I tend to "cuddle up" a lot and don't really act differently to being in a serious relationship, apart from having less contact and being more aloof. Maybe this gives them the impression?

df

That cuddling up thing gives them the impression you care in a hurry. Most guys dont do that, they arent used to it, so they think you must really really like them. Myself, i love playing with a girls body and "cuddling up" as you put it. I also know that by doing those things, i'll be getting laid quickly. Its got me into more than one conversation, way early into dating a girl, that stemmed from them thinking how much i must really like them because i "cuddle up". If that makes sense
 
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