"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Setting down the rules
- Thread starter Crissco
- Start date
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
bukowski_merit
Master Don Juan
Any other rules are adjusted based on the context of the relationship.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Crissco
Master Don Juan
Explain?Ease said:
I wrote out a list of rules that im going to stick by, basically personal standards for myself. And also a list of personal boundaries im going to lay out to the girl that she cant cross. Also the fact shes gotta know I can walk away at anytime no problem.
Well its best to iron out potential bad behaviours before they happen and then if they do happen (small bad behaviours, big ones you leave her) you punish bad behaviour by withdrawing your attention from her.Ease said:
You can always during conversations indirectly reply that there are certain behaviours in women now a days you find repulsive and whom you don't respect and then gauge her reaction to it. If she likes you then she will most likely agree with your assessment and deep down in her mind she will be thinking "ohh I must change my behaviour or I might lose this guy" and a change of a behaviour will follow. If she doesn't like your views she will give you a scorn face and become argumantative in which case you realise you got a woman who doesn't have that much of high interest in you and will never change.
Also its best to start training or a better word "holding the frame" if you see a long term potential with this one after you f@ckeed her at least 3 times. Until then just have fun and don't worry about it too much because it will just be a hassle.
Crissco
Master Don Juan
Exactly what ive been doing. One thing that gets me is though. If I put a set standard on rules and if the women doesn't meet my criteria to a certian extent ill move on, but whos to say that women isnt cool, or pretty awesome on the inside. Also have can u get to know a women in a month, 2 months anyway, it usually takes 6 months to a year. So setting down set rules in my opinion is'nt the way to go. Your better off being a bit more flexible, especially in the beginning.DJDamage said: