She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Thanks brocatman said:soon as she brings up wanting to be exclusive![]()
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Explain?Ease said:Rules are best laid out without words.
You train her by punishing bad behaviour.
Well its best to iron out potential bad behaviours before they happen and then if they do happen (small bad behaviours, big ones you leave her) you punish bad behaviour by withdrawing your attention from her.Ease said:Rules are best laid out without words.
You train her by punishing bad behaviour.
Exactly what ive been doing. One thing that gets me is though. If I put a set standard on rules and if the women doesn't meet my criteria to a certian extent ill move on, but whos to say that women isnt cool, or pretty awesome on the inside. Also have can u get to know a women in a month, 2 months anyway, it usually takes 6 months to a year. So setting down set rules in my opinion is'nt the way to go. Your better off being a bit more flexible, especially in the beginning.DJDamage said:Well its best to iron out potential bad behaviours before they happen and then if they do happen (small bad behaviours, big ones you leave her) you punish bad behaviour by withdrawing your attention from her.
You can always during conversations indirectly reply that there are certain behaviours in women now a days you find repulsive and whom you don't respect and then gauge her reaction to it. If she likes you then she will most likely agree with your assessment and deep down in her mind she will be thinking "ohh I must change my behaviour or I might lose this guy" and a change of a behaviour will follow. If she doesn't like your views she will give you a scorn face and become argumantative in which case you realise you got a woman who doesn't have that much of high interest in you and will never change.
Also its best to start training or a better word "holding the frame" if you see a long term potential with this one after you f@ckeed her at least 3 times. Until then just have fun and don't worry about it too much because it will just be a hassle.