"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Set Yourself Free From Worrying

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Set Yourself Free From Worrying
A light read you can use to become a better person part 1

This is going to be a rebellion against our precious social conditioning. It is making us so happy is it not ? Of course it is not. I imagine social conditioning as an unwritten book of rules about how you should behave. And you could not do anything against. Your family started and the media, newspapers, movies are still doing it. Maybe you do not experience it because you were born in a PIMP family. But I do not believe you were because if it was so, I am sure you would not be reading this right now.

Guy made a party of 100 people, neighbours complained about the noise, they were running naked and so on. They were having fun. As I read in the newspapers they were behaving very immature. And this was not just one case, there are thousands of similar cases. So the newspapers are teaching us not to have fun. Did I just catch you saying that this is an extreme ? That it is wild and for crazy people only ? Think again what caused those thoughts in you. Social conditioning. You were taught to behave nice all the time, to hinder your wildness, creativity, spontaneity.

I was born to be crazy and I found this out when I started to realize that social conditioning is not my master, my boss, my god. It is worth nothing for me. I do crazy stuff all the time. I am having fun and I am being fully in the moment.

How many times have you felt nervous when you were a teenager and somebody suggested that you do a wild thing like taking of a shirt in the middle of the class. Like that is such a horrible thing I am thinking now. But when I was younger I considered it so unreachable and so wild. I had adrenaline running through my veins, my heart was pumping like a maniac and I took off my shirt. It was social conditioning that was teaching me that it is not right to put your shirt off. That being naked is impolite and rude to some people. Forget this programming of your mind and set yourself free from worrying and caring about what others think. I do not care about what SHOULD BE, I do what I want and I do it without regretting what I just did.

Be like a virus to it. Do not go anything near CRIMINAL like vandalism and any other forms of criminal. It is against social conditioning but seriously you really do not want to spend your life giving ass to other inmates. I do not tolerate criminal intents. I am crazy, but I do not tolerate criminal.

Right now I am feeling like I am telling you to become a maniac. Do all sick stuff you can imagine like spitting in your grandmas face and saying "**** You". I am not saying that and do not to this if you were thinking about it. These people love you. You are the most precious gift to them.

With being a virus I am going in the way of not caring about social conditioning when you want to do thinks that are fun, adventurous, exciting, take balls. I am talking about positive rule breaking. If you are out with a girl and there's a little park that is closed from public but you can jump over the fence. Then do it! This is what I am talking about. Not giving a single bit of your interest of what society tells us when you want to be creative, spontaneous and have fun.

Clear your precious mind of the garbage society tells you not to do just to have some fun and be crazy. Be an exception to the rule. Remember it, breathe it, become it. Also clean your mind of thinking about what others are thinking of you. I have felt so full of different thoughts when I wanted to kiss my girl in between a large group of people. I was constantly thinking if she seems attractive to other people, should I kiss her, what will others think, how can I appear very cool and **** like that. Do not care about what others think, erase this from your mind.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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SinJester

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Ugh I'm struggling with this atm. I was becoming fun and spontanous and I didn't care for awhile... but my AFC self took back over. I don't worry so much about other people as much as my parents, I want to have fun but there's only so much you can keep from them and for a little while they will still be a large part of my life. They set the rules and I can't help it but I feel bad if I break them.

Any advice?
 

sam3083

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Hey Sindog!

Lets have a chat about this sometime...
 

SinJester

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Are you trying to hit on him?
We are mates outside the forum Matty

Oh wait.. was that a neg? :p
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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sam3083

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DAMN! I came on too strong!

Which is what alot of you guys aren't doing, come to think of it.

Next time you see that girl you like, make sure she knows you like her (that goes out to you HS guys, btw)
 
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