"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Seriously, what can I do about this?

RazorAzoth

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My core problem in my life is that I worry too much about what people think of me. Because of this, I'll often worry so much that I'll either say something stupid/awkward or do something to mess up somehow and embarrass myself. All because I worry/care way too much about how people see me and how they think of me.

How can I stop this? I was hoping there was an anxiety pill I could take to help me mellow out a lot of not care anymore, but they all seem to have nasty side effects. And they're really doesn't seem to be anything all-natural to take to help me eliminate this problem.

What can I do?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I would suggest some alternate medicine. Do a search on the net and find out about herbs and vitamins that might help you physically while you work on yourself mentaly.



Good luck.


Cheers!
 

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RazorAzoth said:
My core problem in my life is that I worry too much about what people think of me. Because of this, I'll often worry so much that I'll either say something stupid/awkward or do something to mess up somehow and embarrass myself. All because I worry/care way too much about how people see me and how they think of me.

How can I stop this? I was hoping there was an anxiety pill I could take to help me mellow out a lot of not care anymore, but they all seem to have nasty side effects. And they're really doesn't seem to be anything all-natural to take to help me eliminate this problem.

What can I do?
its all in your head. If u do not have the mental strength to overcome it, there is nothing else u can do. Medicine could be a temporary solution, but not permanent.
 

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There isn't even a pill I could get a perscription for that will help this?
 

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Get your f*cking head out of the quick-fix-with-a-pill mentality. That'll help.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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RazorAzoth said:
My core problem in my life is that I worry too much about what people think of me. Because of this, I'll often worry so much that I'll either say something stupid/awkward or do something to mess up somehow and embarrass myself. All because I worry/care way too much about how people see me and how they think of me.

How can I stop this? I was hoping there was an anxiety pill I could take to help me mellow out a lot of not care anymore, but they all seem to have nasty side effects. And they're really doesn't seem to be anything all-natural to take to help me eliminate this problem.

What can I do?
I got that problem too, but it's going better lately. You just gotta say **** it, and do it! Easier said that done, obviously
 

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There are numerous Pills:

SSRIs, or Riddilin or Adderall.

And If you cant get any of those, I guess there`s always coke, but that doesnt come in pill form.
 

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pg_lost said:
There are numerous Pills:

SSRIs, or Riddilin or Adderall.

And If you cant get any of those, I guess there`s always coke, but that doesnt come in pill form.
Unfortunately, I don't believe in pills.
 

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St. Johns wort. Its like a SSRI but natural.

Now because it doesn't have any side effects, its weak. It will take at least a month to 'load' it into your system.

But it is useful for eliminating mild depression, and reducing stress & anxiety.


That's about all you can do physically. The rest is in your head.
 

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Why is everyone reccomending pills these days?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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St. Johns wort is not a pill. Its an extract from a plant.

Its about as effective as green tea, except without the caffeine. It does its work differently.
 

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It's-Me said:
Unfortunately, I don't believe in pills.
Unfortunately, the original poster was asking about pills, so it doesnt matter what you believe in. And if you have anxiety problems, not believing in science, or pills, doesnt mean they dont work.
 

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Alle_Gory said:
St. Johns wort. Its like a SSRI but natural.

Now because it doesn't have any side effects, its weak. It will take at least a month to 'load' it into your system.

But it is useful for eliminating mild depression, and reducing stress & anxiety.


That's about all you can do physically. The rest is in your head.
I`m gonna try that. But I dont think st.johns is completely without side effects. If you are taking other medication, you should let your doc know. Cause I learned about this lady that had a transplant, and she was also taking St.Jonhs wort, but failed to tell her doc cause she thought it was harmless. It countered the anti-rejection pills she was taking and she lost the organ, and died.
 

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Yup. Also, you can't be taking St. Johns wort if you're taking anti-depressants.

Check with the doc if you're taking any kind of medication.
Also, its good to do a check if you're mixing herbs. Sometimes there are bad side effects when they interact in your bloodstream, just like drugs.

The less you take the better. Stick to one or two herbs at a time if you can.
 

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Think about it this way if someone else can do it why can't you? Any excuse you provide is just fear and not real. Nothing you say is awkward unless you think it is awkward and most the time it's not it's just how you feel and react that makes what you say akward...
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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how about this:

- get pills if you want

or

- do what I did and just stop giving a **** about the things that DON'T REALLY MATTER. STOP CARING SO MUCH. START TO CULTIVATE A STRONGER EGO. THINK BETTER OF YOURSELF AND IF YOU FVCK UP JUST BE LIKE "HAHA DON'T CARE!!! I BET THESE FVCKERS FVCK UP 100 X MORE THAN I DO HAHAHAHA. I WON'T LET THIS HAPPEN AGAIN."

LAUGH IT OFF, DON'T BE A DOUCHE AND FEEL SORRY FOR YOURSELF U PVSSY!!!
 

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Desert Fox said:
how about this:

- get pills if you want

or

- do what I did and just stop giving a **** about the things that DON'T REALLY MATTER.
Why not do both? A holistic approach always works better.


START TO CULTIVATE A STRONGER EGO. THINK BETTER OF YOURSELF AND IF YOU FVCK UP JUST BE LIKE "HAHA DON'T CARE!!! I BET THESE FVCKERS FVCK UP 100 X MORE THAN I DO HAHAHAHA. I WON'T LET THIS HAPPEN AGAIN."
You mean self-esteem. Ego can be very volatile.

LAUGH IT OFF, DON'T BE A DOUCHE AND FEEL SORRY FOR YOURSELF U PVSSY!!!
:kick:
 

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Why do you even worrie about what other people think? What matters in what you think. You created this problem for yourself... YOU solve it. No pill will ever work.

If you think you're the man... you're the man! If you don't think like this, obviously you're going to look for other people's validation.

Anyways, don't go in for the approval- assume you have it already. You like yourself, why do you need validation? Go in for the fun. That's it. You like to have fun don't you? So.
 
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