As a matter of comparison, although Doc Love's "System" is several years old and quite dated in many respects, there are aspects of it that translate well to today's game. For example, his take on answering machines is still very relevant, despite the fact that almost nobody owns one anymore. Doc Love's position is that you should not leave a message when a woman doesn't pick up the phone, at least not during the first 60 days. Today, it would likely be a voicemail, but regardless, leaving any message gives her all the power to reach out to you whenever she damn well pleases. That is, after she receives the message, she then controls the communication in the relationship. Further, you have no idea how she reacted to hearing the message, and as such, you cannot accordingly gauge her interest level.
The same concept applies to texting, but it's even worse. At least when you place a phone call, there's a chance she could pick up. With a text, once you hit send, with that message goes all your control. She could reply right away, or she could read it and blow you off. You have no idea whether she was glued to her phone and read the text right away or whether she never got around to checking it. There are countless reasons why a woman, even one with high interest, will not respond to a text. Additionally, no matter when she does actually read the message, she still retains the unilateral discretion as to when she will reply, if she replies at all. All the while, you are watching your phone, waiting to see if she really likes you, and pulling your hair out over any lack of response, not knowing what's really going on.
Suppose she doesn't reply for hours or even days. Does that mean she has low interest, or is she just busy or otherwise occupied? Conversely, what if she gets back to you right away? Is her interest level truly high, or is she just feeding off your attention? In either case, you can't be entirely certain.
Moreover, this is all in addition to the fact that written language is often read incorrectly and misinterpreted. Sarcasm can be missed to disastrous results. But if you have a conversation on the phone, you can gauge the inflection in her voice and her choices of words. If you see her in person, there's even more to go by. With a text, you hit "send" and hope she reads the message the way you intended. If she doesn't, watch out!
This is not to say that texting is entirely bad. A well-crafted and timely text message can be a powerful tool, but you have to know what you're doing. Also, once you've established and defined a relationship with a woman, texting should become less of a game. If it's been a while and you're positive that she's totally into you, it'll likely be fine.
I don't think I've written anything novel here; rather, I've merely dispensed some thoughts over my own situation. The foregoing is the result of an ill-fated text message I sent today to a woman I've been dating for six weeks. I sent what I thought was a clever message, and of course, I'm still waiting for a response. To this I say, I'm done learning the lesson the hard way. In my case, I think she's playing hardball because I took two days to reply to her last text. She's done this before, and quite frankly, I don't like it, but I digress. My case is a clear example of why texting is so dangerous and so often asked about on these boards. It's just way too open to interpretation.
My mind gave my fingers the crazy idea that it would be a good idea to text her on an idle Thursday. Next time, I'll call her and set up a real, actual date.
She'll like that a lot more, and I will too.
The same concept applies to texting, but it's even worse. At least when you place a phone call, there's a chance she could pick up. With a text, once you hit send, with that message goes all your control. She could reply right away, or she could read it and blow you off. You have no idea whether she was glued to her phone and read the text right away or whether she never got around to checking it. There are countless reasons why a woman, even one with high interest, will not respond to a text. Additionally, no matter when she does actually read the message, she still retains the unilateral discretion as to when she will reply, if she replies at all. All the while, you are watching your phone, waiting to see if she really likes you, and pulling your hair out over any lack of response, not knowing what's really going on.
Suppose she doesn't reply for hours or even days. Does that mean she has low interest, or is she just busy or otherwise occupied? Conversely, what if she gets back to you right away? Is her interest level truly high, or is she just feeding off your attention? In either case, you can't be entirely certain.
Moreover, this is all in addition to the fact that written language is often read incorrectly and misinterpreted. Sarcasm can be missed to disastrous results. But if you have a conversation on the phone, you can gauge the inflection in her voice and her choices of words. If you see her in person, there's even more to go by. With a text, you hit "send" and hope she reads the message the way you intended. If she doesn't, watch out!
This is not to say that texting is entirely bad. A well-crafted and timely text message can be a powerful tool, but you have to know what you're doing. Also, once you've established and defined a relationship with a woman, texting should become less of a game. If it's been a while and you're positive that she's totally into you, it'll likely be fine.
I don't think I've written anything novel here; rather, I've merely dispensed some thoughts over my own situation. The foregoing is the result of an ill-fated text message I sent today to a woman I've been dating for six weeks. I sent what I thought was a clever message, and of course, I'm still waiting for a response. To this I say, I'm done learning the lesson the hard way. In my case, I think she's playing hardball because I took two days to reply to her last text. She's done this before, and quite frankly, I don't like it, but I digress. My case is a clear example of why texting is so dangerous and so often asked about on these boards. It's just way too open to interpretation.
My mind gave my fingers the crazy idea that it would be a good idea to text her on an idle Thursday. Next time, I'll call her and set up a real, actual date.
She'll like that a lot more, and I will too.
